My daughter is getting married soon to a Kapoor boy soon we are Madhwa Brahmin from South.Can any body suggest the step by step procedure for Punjabi Marriage Rituals for Kapoors boy?
Sorry, we don't deal with Indian cultural matters here. This the Gay %26amp; Lesbian section.
Thursday, May 13, 2010
How long after a marriage breakup should a person start dating?
I don't know the answer exactly. I've been seperated a little over a month %26amp; I know I am definately NOT ready. I'm still letting go of him %26amp; finding me. I'm not sure when %26amp; if I will be ready. Divorce/seperation is very painful. It causes you to spend to much time on internet questions %26amp; answers :)How long after a marriage breakup should a person start dating?
it really depends on you. Me personally i would take care of me first before i can be with someone else again. That can take more than a year. It all depends. Sorry about the breakup i hope you find happiness again.How long after a marriage breakup should a person start dating?
couple of months
How about tonight?
Some people start before the breakup. Others are so glad to be out of a bad relationship they can't wait to get out and start life again. Others are more Victorian and think they have to wait for some period of time.
Afterwards??? why wait until then! I mean its going to be over anyways right? What's one more thing to add to the list.
Good question,
If you filed for the D ... 10 minutes.
If he filed for D ......... 10 minutes.
Right of the bat, I would say about one year.
However, I think you should wait until you are sure that healing has occurred and that you are very ready for the next relationship
I think that's dependant upon the person who is divorced.
sounds like the other half already has,is that the reson for the divorce
When ever they feel the need to.
YOU WILL KNOW IN YOUR HEART
WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT
Only after you've given yourself sufficient time to heal. It varies with all of us, depending on how deeply you were hurt, was there cheating involved, etc. If you feel like you've healed well enough, then go out.....just don't get too involved, too soon. It's easy to do too. Nice and slow are the keywords. Have fun, but just not TOO serious!
its totally up to you, on when do you feel its right. dont worry about what other people think of you. some people date right away some wait a while or just never date at all. i suggest let it come naturally. dont go looking for a date, let a date just stroll by and then try to gradually take it in.
I would wait a few months. Find out who you are first. If you don't figure yourself out as an individual seperate from that past relationship you'll never be able to develope a healthy new relationship.
It is a hard question to answer, I guess much of it depends on the nature of the split. Me and my wife recently split and I know my feelings are far too screwed up to think about dating yet-although I wish I was ready to have the confidence to go out in the dating world again. I don't see myself being ready for dating until the new year at least and by then will have been 3-4 months.
Very good question. It all depends on the person. I would say you should wait at lease 4-6 months. I went through a really bad situation and started dating too early, like 1 month after. It was a disaster. Your feelings get so screwed up. I would not recommend that to anyone. I would say safe bet 4-6 months. You need time for yourself before you start seeing people. But there is definitely nothing wrong with dating. Whenever you're ready is a good tim.
2 or 3 years.
it really depends on you. Me personally i would take care of me first before i can be with someone else again. That can take more than a year. It all depends. Sorry about the breakup i hope you find happiness again.How long after a marriage breakup should a person start dating?
couple of months
How about tonight?
Some people start before the breakup. Others are so glad to be out of a bad relationship they can't wait to get out and start life again. Others are more Victorian and think they have to wait for some period of time.
Afterwards??? why wait until then! I mean its going to be over anyways right? What's one more thing to add to the list.
Good question,
If you filed for the D ... 10 minutes.
If he filed for D ......... 10 minutes.
Right of the bat, I would say about one year.
However, I think you should wait until you are sure that healing has occurred and that you are very ready for the next relationship
I think that's dependant upon the person who is divorced.
sounds like the other half already has,is that the reson for the divorce
When ever they feel the need to.
YOU WILL KNOW IN YOUR HEART
WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT
Only after you've given yourself sufficient time to heal. It varies with all of us, depending on how deeply you were hurt, was there cheating involved, etc. If you feel like you've healed well enough, then go out.....just don't get too involved, too soon. It's easy to do too. Nice and slow are the keywords. Have fun, but just not TOO serious!
its totally up to you, on when do you feel its right. dont worry about what other people think of you. some people date right away some wait a while or just never date at all. i suggest let it come naturally. dont go looking for a date, let a date just stroll by and then try to gradually take it in.
I would wait a few months. Find out who you are first. If you don't figure yourself out as an individual seperate from that past relationship you'll never be able to develope a healthy new relationship.
It is a hard question to answer, I guess much of it depends on the nature of the split. Me and my wife recently split and I know my feelings are far too screwed up to think about dating yet-although I wish I was ready to have the confidence to go out in the dating world again. I don't see myself being ready for dating until the new year at least and by then will have been 3-4 months.
Very good question. It all depends on the person. I would say you should wait at lease 4-6 months. I went through a really bad situation and started dating too early, like 1 month after. It was a disaster. Your feelings get so screwed up. I would not recommend that to anyone. I would say safe bet 4-6 months. You need time for yourself before you start seeing people. But there is definitely nothing wrong with dating. Whenever you're ready is a good tim.
2 or 3 years.
Re The anti-gay marriage amendments that are on the ballots of several states this year ?
Are we seeing the power of Democracy in action or the power of the mob ?Re The anti-gay marriage amendments that are on the ballots of several states this year ?
You are goiing to be seeing the SCOTUS striking them all down pretty soon now that precedent has been set by CA, MA, %26amp; CT. Re The anti-gay marriage amendments that are on the ballots of several states this year ?
I believe you are seeing the power of Democracy provided the LGBT people succeed in having their rights... It's unfortunate that more people do not recognize the fact that if 'government' can deny any particular group 'equal rights' they can also deny other groups of their 'equal rights' under the law... I would encourage anyone who has such strong anti-gay sentiments to think long and hard before they start the 'process' of denying others their 'equal rights'...lest they lose some of their own... It doesn't take too much of a stretch of imagination to understand the innumerable rights that may be denied given the past eight horrible years...
Let's say, for example, a particular religious sect becomes 'the majority'...let's say that majority is Muslim...what chance do you really think Christianity or Judaism will stand? Think about it...
Freedom and equal rights are for everyone...if one doesn't agree with that 'right', they do NOT have to participate in it... But...to deny it to anyone else because of their 'personal beliefs' is dead wrong...
This will give the conservatives another reason to go to the polls, while they are there they will vote for McCain. If it were not for gay marriage bringing conservatives to the polls in 2004, W would not have been able to edge out Kerry.
Ballot issues such as that are only designed to get the most bigoted and hateful end of the right in the polling booth. Those states do not even care about stuff like that. It is just a polling stunt.
No gay rights. No White rights. No black rights. No Hispanic rights. How about equal rights for all? It's already there. Use it!
IF and that is a big ';IF'; voter turn out is anything they are expecting the christian right will be in for a shock. That they no longer matter.......
You are goiing to be seeing the SCOTUS striking them all down pretty soon now that precedent has been set by CA, MA, %26amp; CT. Re The anti-gay marriage amendments that are on the ballots of several states this year ?
I believe you are seeing the power of Democracy provided the LGBT people succeed in having their rights... It's unfortunate that more people do not recognize the fact that if 'government' can deny any particular group 'equal rights' they can also deny other groups of their 'equal rights' under the law... I would encourage anyone who has such strong anti-gay sentiments to think long and hard before they start the 'process' of denying others their 'equal rights'...lest they lose some of their own... It doesn't take too much of a stretch of imagination to understand the innumerable rights that may be denied given the past eight horrible years...
Let's say, for example, a particular religious sect becomes 'the majority'...let's say that majority is Muslim...what chance do you really think Christianity or Judaism will stand? Think about it...
Freedom and equal rights are for everyone...if one doesn't agree with that 'right', they do NOT have to participate in it... But...to deny it to anyone else because of their 'personal beliefs' is dead wrong...
This will give the conservatives another reason to go to the polls, while they are there they will vote for McCain. If it were not for gay marriage bringing conservatives to the polls in 2004, W would not have been able to edge out Kerry.
Ballot issues such as that are only designed to get the most bigoted and hateful end of the right in the polling booth. Those states do not even care about stuff like that. It is just a polling stunt.
No gay rights. No White rights. No black rights. No Hispanic rights. How about equal rights for all? It's already there. Use it!
IF and that is a big ';IF'; voter turn out is anything they are expecting the christian right will be in for a shock. That they no longer matter.......
Do you think gay marriage should be legal?
I think it should, I think the every SINGLE state in US should have gay marriage, it's just not fair.Do you think gay marriage should be legal?
Yes, why not? They're not harming anyone by getting married!
:DDo you think gay marriage should be legal?
yea but not bisexuals i hate bi gurls they keep calling me sexy and i dnt like it
The state shouldn't be involved in heterosexual marriage either. But we're talking about social institutions here. There are different dynamics to hetero and homo relationships - one being that two males or two females can't create their own biological children together. The other being that there are still many systematic inequalities for women in our society, and marriage as it exists reflects that.
The state has no business creating any new social institution, call it gay marriage or whatever, it's new. Change comes from the ground up, not the top down. The LGBT 'gay marriage' fools are statists pure and simple. Creating 'gay' marriage is social engineering by the state.
That in a nutshell is why I oppose it.
yeah! people should be able to love whoever they want to. i found this thing yesterday, i think it is brilliant.
Ten reasons gay marriage is not legal:
1) Being gay is not natural. Real Americans always reject unnatural things like eyeglasses, polyester, and air conditioning.
2) Gay marriage will encourage people to be gay, in the same way that hanging around tall people will make you tall.
3) Legalizing gay marriage will open the door to all kinds of crazy behavior. People may even wish to marry their pets because a dog has legal standing and can sign a marriage contract.
4) Straight marriage has been around a long time and hasn’t changed at all; women are still property, blacks still can’t marry whites, and divorce is still illegal.
5) Straight marriage will be less meaningful if gay marriage were allowed; the sanctity of Britany Spears’ 55-hour just-for-fun marriage would be destroyed.
6) Straight marriages are valid because they produce children. Gay couples, infertile couples, and old people shouldn’t be allowed to marry because our orphanages aren’t full yet, and the world needs more children.
7) Obviously gay parents will raise gay children, since straight parents only raise straight children.
8) Gay marriage is not supported by religion. In a theocracy like ours, the values of one religion are imposed on the entire country. That’s why we have only one religion in America.
9) Children can never succeed without a male and a female role model at home. That’s why we as a society expressly forbid single parents to raise children.
10) Gay marriage will change the foundation of society; we could never adapt to new social norms. Just like we haven’t adapted to cars, the service-sector economy, or longer life spans.
I think gay and lesbian relationships should be recognized. The Bible condems lust between men and women, but it does no condemn loving relationships between two people. So therefore, gay marriage should be legal. Its about the only liberal standpoint I have.
Sexuality is not obtained until your a teenager in most people. So no one is born homosexual or heterosexual. Later in life, your sexuality begins to appear.
I do not believe gay marriage should be legal.
I'm not close minded and I don't look down on homosexuals as people. But, I believe the Bible shows marriage as the union of a man and woman. Getting married is a religious ceremony. A Christian one. Why should the state decide what the Christian church does? I think a gay couple should be able to be represented in the government but it should not be through the Church.
Well, me and my girlfriend are temporarly married until we can get married properly, which will happen either in UK or Poland, since both countries have gay marriage as a legal thing.
I think that gay marriage banning is discrimination and... sexism. I'm serious. It takes away both men's and women's rights to love another man or woman. I know it's confusing, but it works, trust me, I came to this conclusion several times. It 's like 'You can't marry him because s/he's a wo/man!'
BUT! I'm talking only about civil marriage. Telling the Christian Church or any other religion to change its ways is just as bad as banning gay marriage. Civil marriage however, should be legal because it's swearing to law, not God. Also, it doesn't harm ANYONE so I think it's really unfair.
And if you're interested in history: In Shakespears' times, homosexuality was treated as a normal thing. The same as in the Roman times. Even the word 'Lesbian' comes from the name of a Greek goddess, who was said to be homosexual and her name was Lesbos. Look at Alexander the Great, he was gay! Also, why do countries treat Jews so special just because of the Holocaust, they get discounts and such (I'm not against the Jews at all.). What about homosexuals, didn't we go through enough stuff? We also were the victims in the Holocaust, so for ***** sake just let us live normaly for once.
Of course it should be legal. Every other developed country in the world allows gay marriage, including your neighbours to the north, so why do Americans have such a problem with it? The country has no business telling people who they can and can't marry. I firmly believe that if two people, regardless of age or gender, wish to marry eachother, then that's a basic human right, and no one can stop them.
i think so
i just dont understand why people say no.. its not you or anyone you even know. you dont even know about it happening anyways and you dont have to be their. it has nothing to do with you so why say no.. its like telling someone no you can eat pizza because your gay.. no gay people can eat pizza to so why cant they get married?
for all the super doper religious people are there.. who are probably by the way DIVORCED who say that being gay is a sin.. so what its not your sin.. so let them do it. also DIVORCED is a sin and many people get divorced too. so thats a total fallacy to the sin argument.
one man and one woman is a sin when they get divorced but no one stops that from happening
so why not let gay people get married.. they probably wouldnt ever get divorced anyway so both would be commiting a sin who cares???
people sin everyday.. swearing.. talking about whatever.
soo all you really religious need to come up with a different argument when you say its a sin.
so yes it should be legal :)
why not? every one has a right to be happy so who are we to judge gay or not and take away their right to be happy. to me its wrong. it would be like saying straight people dont have the right to be married. people wouldnt like that, so why judge gay people and tell them no? everyone sais its based on religion but theres no right or wrong religion and there are plenty of religious people who are gay. they deserve to be happy and have a family to.
Gay marriage should be legal. No one chose to be gay, it's just the way you are born. Your brain is either programmed to be attracted to people of the opposite sex, or of the same sex. And if you are attracted to people of the same sex then you should be allowed to marry them.
Yes because no matter who your with , the same or different sex you should have the right to get married
your prefernces should not get in the way of my rights - i forgot who it was but if there happy why not , my cousin's gay and i don't mind it one bit because i know he's happy and if he is with a man to make him happy so be it .
yes it sould be legal married is really like a contract of two people to gaher and if that person died then the other can like get there remain or stuff duh so peolpe who r guy and want to get married shouls be able to have the same right plus the wolf is ****** up anyways so who cares (im not gay)
I think it should be legal. I mean, love is love, right?
I'm having a hard time seeing why people freak out over this issue and scream, ';No! No! NO!!'; And practically have a stroke over it. I mean, what if their true love was the same sex as them? I bet that they'd see things differently then.
Yes because it's not hurting anyone. I was in Gay Straight Alliance at my school last year and the high school I'm going to had the very first Gay Straight Alliance in California. So definitely, I believe in it.
YES.
its a persons life to do with it what they want, why is it that some strange people can marry objects (read a weird story about someone marrying a rollercoaster) but some ppl batter eyelashes at gays.
Its bizzard. There not harming anyone!
Yes because everyone has their own opinions in which gender they like or dislike.. America is too biased...being straight is right being gay is wrong..i think gay marriage should be legal you cant control love...so i support gays and gay marriage
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Oh yes! Men getting married has no effect on other people so why should the USA make it illegal, I think it should also be legal in all 10 provinces and territories in Canada too, because it is just not anything bad.
Gay marriage should be legal because nobody chooses to be gay or straight (though some refuse to believe that) there's a part of your brain that decides that for you.
Yes! If someone loves a person it shouldn't matter what gender they are. How would you feel if you were told that you couldn't marry the person you love just because they were the same sex as you?
i absotutely think that gay marriage should be legalized...not just in the US tho. and i think gay love is the sweetest kind of love around.
I think so. What happened to, ';This is a free country'; %26amp; ';Everyone is treated equally'; ? Well that can be thrown down the drain in that case because that phrase is an AUTOMATIC FALSE.
It is legal where I come from.
England :]
(I think it is anyway!?)
And yes, as I've grown up with gay marriage being ok, I think it should be legal in the USA.
yes. its not fair that people that are straight and not in love can get married, but gays that are in love can't get married.
I believe that everyone should have the right to marry who they want, without it becoming a legal affair. It should be legal WORLD WIDE
I think it should be legal, you can't control love.
Yes.
People's sexual preference is of no concern to the government.
Equal rights please...this is 2009 right?
shameful.
People should be able to like whoever the hell they please without getting judged for it.
i think so. i think it would be fair for people who are gay to get married.
i think people should be able to d what they want turn it around what if males and female could not get married how would you feel
Yes, gay marriage should be legal.
Nope, marriage should be between a man and a woman. If we start letting everyone get married, then marriage is no longer as sacred of a ceremony as it once was.
Yes, why not? They're not harming anyone by getting married!
:DDo you think gay marriage should be legal?
yea but not bisexuals i hate bi gurls they keep calling me sexy and i dnt like it
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The state shouldn't be involved in heterosexual marriage either. But we're talking about social institutions here. There are different dynamics to hetero and homo relationships - one being that two males or two females can't create their own biological children together. The other being that there are still many systematic inequalities for women in our society, and marriage as it exists reflects that.
The state has no business creating any new social institution, call it gay marriage or whatever, it's new. Change comes from the ground up, not the top down. The LGBT 'gay marriage' fools are statists pure and simple. Creating 'gay' marriage is social engineering by the state.
That in a nutshell is why I oppose it.
yeah! people should be able to love whoever they want to. i found this thing yesterday, i think it is brilliant.
Ten reasons gay marriage is not legal:
1) Being gay is not natural. Real Americans always reject unnatural things like eyeglasses, polyester, and air conditioning.
2) Gay marriage will encourage people to be gay, in the same way that hanging around tall people will make you tall.
3) Legalizing gay marriage will open the door to all kinds of crazy behavior. People may even wish to marry their pets because a dog has legal standing and can sign a marriage contract.
4) Straight marriage has been around a long time and hasn’t changed at all; women are still property, blacks still can’t marry whites, and divorce is still illegal.
5) Straight marriage will be less meaningful if gay marriage were allowed; the sanctity of Britany Spears’ 55-hour just-for-fun marriage would be destroyed.
6) Straight marriages are valid because they produce children. Gay couples, infertile couples, and old people shouldn’t be allowed to marry because our orphanages aren’t full yet, and the world needs more children.
7) Obviously gay parents will raise gay children, since straight parents only raise straight children.
8) Gay marriage is not supported by religion. In a theocracy like ours, the values of one religion are imposed on the entire country. That’s why we have only one religion in America.
9) Children can never succeed without a male and a female role model at home. That’s why we as a society expressly forbid single parents to raise children.
10) Gay marriage will change the foundation of society; we could never adapt to new social norms. Just like we haven’t adapted to cars, the service-sector economy, or longer life spans.
I think gay and lesbian relationships should be recognized. The Bible condems lust between men and women, but it does no condemn loving relationships between two people. So therefore, gay marriage should be legal. Its about the only liberal standpoint I have.
Sexuality is not obtained until your a teenager in most people. So no one is born homosexual or heterosexual. Later in life, your sexuality begins to appear.
I do not believe gay marriage should be legal.
I'm not close minded and I don't look down on homosexuals as people. But, I believe the Bible shows marriage as the union of a man and woman. Getting married is a religious ceremony. A Christian one. Why should the state decide what the Christian church does? I think a gay couple should be able to be represented in the government but it should not be through the Church.
Well, me and my girlfriend are temporarly married until we can get married properly, which will happen either in UK or Poland, since both countries have gay marriage as a legal thing.
I think that gay marriage banning is discrimination and... sexism. I'm serious. It takes away both men's and women's rights to love another man or woman. I know it's confusing, but it works, trust me, I came to this conclusion several times. It 's like 'You can't marry him because s/he's a wo/man!'
BUT! I'm talking only about civil marriage. Telling the Christian Church or any other religion to change its ways is just as bad as banning gay marriage. Civil marriage however, should be legal because it's swearing to law, not God. Also, it doesn't harm ANYONE so I think it's really unfair.
And if you're interested in history: In Shakespears' times, homosexuality was treated as a normal thing. The same as in the Roman times. Even the word 'Lesbian' comes from the name of a Greek goddess, who was said to be homosexual and her name was Lesbos. Look at Alexander the Great, he was gay! Also, why do countries treat Jews so special just because of the Holocaust, they get discounts and such (I'm not against the Jews at all.). What about homosexuals, didn't we go through enough stuff? We also were the victims in the Holocaust, so for ***** sake just let us live normaly for once.
Of course it should be legal. Every other developed country in the world allows gay marriage, including your neighbours to the north, so why do Americans have such a problem with it? The country has no business telling people who they can and can't marry. I firmly believe that if two people, regardless of age or gender, wish to marry eachother, then that's a basic human right, and no one can stop them.
i think so
i just dont understand why people say no.. its not you or anyone you even know. you dont even know about it happening anyways and you dont have to be their. it has nothing to do with you so why say no.. its like telling someone no you can eat pizza because your gay.. no gay people can eat pizza to so why cant they get married?
for all the super doper religious people are there.. who are probably by the way DIVORCED who say that being gay is a sin.. so what its not your sin.. so let them do it. also DIVORCED is a sin and many people get divorced too. so thats a total fallacy to the sin argument.
one man and one woman is a sin when they get divorced but no one stops that from happening
so why not let gay people get married.. they probably wouldnt ever get divorced anyway so both would be commiting a sin who cares???
people sin everyday.. swearing.. talking about whatever.
soo all you really religious need to come up with a different argument when you say its a sin.
so yes it should be legal :)
why not? every one has a right to be happy so who are we to judge gay or not and take away their right to be happy. to me its wrong. it would be like saying straight people dont have the right to be married. people wouldnt like that, so why judge gay people and tell them no? everyone sais its based on religion but theres no right or wrong religion and there are plenty of religious people who are gay. they deserve to be happy and have a family to.
Gay marriage should be legal. No one chose to be gay, it's just the way you are born. Your brain is either programmed to be attracted to people of the opposite sex, or of the same sex. And if you are attracted to people of the same sex then you should be allowed to marry them.
Yes because no matter who your with , the same or different sex you should have the right to get married
your prefernces should not get in the way of my rights - i forgot who it was but if there happy why not , my cousin's gay and i don't mind it one bit because i know he's happy and if he is with a man to make him happy so be it .
yes it sould be legal married is really like a contract of two people to gaher and if that person died then the other can like get there remain or stuff duh so peolpe who r guy and want to get married shouls be able to have the same right plus the wolf is ****** up anyways so who cares (im not gay)
I think it should be legal. I mean, love is love, right?
I'm having a hard time seeing why people freak out over this issue and scream, ';No! No! NO!!'; And practically have a stroke over it. I mean, what if their true love was the same sex as them? I bet that they'd see things differently then.
Yes because it's not hurting anyone. I was in Gay Straight Alliance at my school last year and the high school I'm going to had the very first Gay Straight Alliance in California. So definitely, I believe in it.
YES.
its a persons life to do with it what they want, why is it that some strange people can marry objects (read a weird story about someone marrying a rollercoaster) but some ppl batter eyelashes at gays.
Its bizzard. There not harming anyone!
Yes because everyone has their own opinions in which gender they like or dislike.. America is too biased...being straight is right being gay is wrong..i think gay marriage should be legal you cant control love...so i support gays and gay marriage
%26lt;333
Oh yes! Men getting married has no effect on other people so why should the USA make it illegal, I think it should also be legal in all 10 provinces and territories in Canada too, because it is just not anything bad.
Gay marriage should be legal because nobody chooses to be gay or straight (though some refuse to believe that) there's a part of your brain that decides that for you.
Yes! If someone loves a person it shouldn't matter what gender they are. How would you feel if you were told that you couldn't marry the person you love just because they were the same sex as you?
i absotutely think that gay marriage should be legalized...not just in the US tho. and i think gay love is the sweetest kind of love around.
I think so. What happened to, ';This is a free country'; %26amp; ';Everyone is treated equally'; ? Well that can be thrown down the drain in that case because that phrase is an AUTOMATIC FALSE.
It is legal where I come from.
England :]
(I think it is anyway!?)
And yes, as I've grown up with gay marriage being ok, I think it should be legal in the USA.
yes. its not fair that people that are straight and not in love can get married, but gays that are in love can't get married.
I believe that everyone should have the right to marry who they want, without it becoming a legal affair. It should be legal WORLD WIDE
I think it should be legal, you can't control love.
Yes.
People's sexual preference is of no concern to the government.
Equal rights please...this is 2009 right?
shameful.
People should be able to like whoever the hell they please without getting judged for it.
i think so. i think it would be fair for people who are gay to get married.
i think people should be able to d what they want turn it around what if males and female could not get married how would you feel
Yes, gay marriage should be legal.
Nope, marriage should be between a man and a woman. If we start letting everyone get married, then marriage is no longer as sacred of a ceremony as it once was.
Would you prefer your spouse be experienced or saved themselves for marriage?
All things equal. Same person - just different situation.Would you prefer your spouse be experienced or saved themselves for marriage?
Id want them to have my equal experience so save themselvesWould you prefer your spouse be experienced or saved themselves for marriage?
My honey had experience and I liked it that way. I had experience too and I liked it that way too -- that way I knew what I liked and what I wanted and was gooood.
I was with a guy with zero experience before I met my true love and it was AWK-warrrrd and he was reeeallllly bad but it wasn't his fault he was a 43 year old virgin :-p
So I was extra glad my honey had experience.
I would want them to be inexperienced when I first have sex with them (in a perfect world, I would want to lose my virginity to a fellow virgin), and by the time we get married, he'll be experienced! Haha. That's in a PERFECT world. ; )
I agree with Q %26amp; A. Sex is important to me, and it would really suck to wait, get married, and then find out he's no good in the sack or wasn't packin much.
';Oh, but you could teach him.';
Blah. No thank you to that! And you can't teach them to have a bigger d*ck.
If they were a virgin, I'd be a bit creeped out. Why hadn't they had sex yet??
Then again, too many partners would intimidate me.
Somewhere in between would show that they are normal, and have enough experience to make our sex life amazing.
experienced. in fact, i'd have to have had sex with them before we got married... sex life is a whole thing you need to be aware of before you marry a guy.
experienced only for guys, men, but not for women, girls
Oh i'm pretty sure he's experienced alright!
:)
I only like virgins.
Doesn't matter to me.mask movie
Id want them to have my equal experience so save themselvesWould you prefer your spouse be experienced or saved themselves for marriage?
My honey had experience and I liked it that way. I had experience too and I liked it that way too -- that way I knew what I liked and what I wanted and was gooood.
I was with a guy with zero experience before I met my true love and it was AWK-warrrrd and he was reeeallllly bad but it wasn't his fault he was a 43 year old virgin :-p
So I was extra glad my honey had experience.
I would want them to be inexperienced when I first have sex with them (in a perfect world, I would want to lose my virginity to a fellow virgin), and by the time we get married, he'll be experienced! Haha. That's in a PERFECT world. ; )
I agree with Q %26amp; A. Sex is important to me, and it would really suck to wait, get married, and then find out he's no good in the sack or wasn't packin much.
';Oh, but you could teach him.';
Blah. No thank you to that! And you can't teach them to have a bigger d*ck.
If they were a virgin, I'd be a bit creeped out. Why hadn't they had sex yet??
Then again, too many partners would intimidate me.
Somewhere in between would show that they are normal, and have enough experience to make our sex life amazing.
experienced. in fact, i'd have to have had sex with them before we got married... sex life is a whole thing you need to be aware of before you marry a guy.
experienced only for guys, men, but not for women, girls
Oh i'm pretty sure he's experienced alright!
:)
I only like virgins.
Doesn't matter to me.
How do you tell someone that you're not ready for marriage?
I'm nineteen and have been dating an older guy for over a year. He has proposed, but I want to wait until I'm out of college and have a steady job. He thinks that there's more to my reasoning and I'm just stringing him along until someone better or closer to my age group comes along. How do I let him know without a doubt that it's a matter of timing and not love or lack thereof?
And I do love him, by the way.How do you tell someone that you're not ready for marriage?
so tell him what you just told us. if he thinks theirs more reasoning or just some plot. tell him your being honest .and you want to be older, out of school and ready for a commitment like that. if he doesnt respect it, then he's not the guy for you.
And I do love him, by the way.How do you tell someone that you're not ready for marriage?
so tell him what you just told us. if he thinks theirs more reasoning or just some plot. tell him your being honest .and you want to be older, out of school and ready for a commitment like that. if he doesnt respect it, then he's not the guy for you.
When it comes to marriage and long therm relationships?
are feminists the bottom of the barrel, considering they are somewhat critic torwards marriage and torwards men ? I mean can you think of somone worse to marry than a woman which is kind of critic torwards men and marriage ? Could there be a worse pick than a feminist for a wife ?When it comes to marriage and long therm relationships?
I'm currently not looking for a relationship and I'm very picky, so I think it will be a while before I settle down again. I have a friend I have sex with to satisfy the need...I also like to dine and travel with him, but I'm not planning to get married unless I meet someone I want to have children with. I take a committed relationship very seriously and it takes lots of time and energy to build up a good one...I frankly like to put the priority on my career and financial advancement for the moment...
Also, I don't care much about the piece of paper, as the title and ';mental obligations'; bring more bads than goods, other than the tax relief of course.
Not sure what you mean by the ';bottom of the barrel?'; What standard of evaluation are you using?When it comes to marriage and long therm relationships?
I am a feminist and have been married for about twenty years. My husband has no complaints!
Feminism criticizes a culture that seeks to limit and control all people. As far as being critical of marriage, lots of males seem to feel that it is a trap that women set for them.
A worse pick than a feminist would be a woman with no mind of her own.
I think your confusing femenism with feme-nazis.
I am in a long term relationship (16 years), and chose not to marry because we don't want to have children.
However, I think marriage and men are great.
I'm also a feminist.
You're wasting your time. Most hate men anyway - even if they deny it. It's not politically correct to admit it.
yes maybe the standards are not so high
You're critical of marriage and women, I see it in your posts all the time.
Could there be a worst pick for a husband?
The real feminist are not like that cuz they dint consider themselves like that. Many women who think they are feminist and want to stand out do all this crap. I do respect women but the character that you mentioned above of a feminist sounds like an egoist to me. Now that's me.
regarding she being a wife lets face it if i loved someone like that and married her i will stick by her how rough the sea maybe.
Just because a woman stands up for her rights does not mean she will not make a good partner. I always figured men liked women that were passionate more than those that tolerated everything, having no standards.
I'm currently not looking for a relationship and I'm very picky, so I think it will be a while before I settle down again. I have a friend I have sex with to satisfy the need...I also like to dine and travel with him, but I'm not planning to get married unless I meet someone I want to have children with. I take a committed relationship very seriously and it takes lots of time and energy to build up a good one...I frankly like to put the priority on my career and financial advancement for the moment...
Also, I don't care much about the piece of paper, as the title and ';mental obligations'; bring more bads than goods, other than the tax relief of course.
Not sure what you mean by the ';bottom of the barrel?'; What standard of evaluation are you using?When it comes to marriage and long therm relationships?
I am a feminist and have been married for about twenty years. My husband has no complaints!
Feminism criticizes a culture that seeks to limit and control all people. As far as being critical of marriage, lots of males seem to feel that it is a trap that women set for them.
A worse pick than a feminist would be a woman with no mind of her own.
I think your confusing femenism with feme-nazis.
I am in a long term relationship (16 years), and chose not to marry because we don't want to have children.
However, I think marriage and men are great.
I'm also a feminist.
You're wasting your time. Most hate men anyway - even if they deny it. It's not politically correct to admit it.
yes maybe the standards are not so high
You're critical of marriage and women, I see it in your posts all the time.
Could there be a worst pick for a husband?
The real feminist are not like that cuz they dint consider themselves like that. Many women who think they are feminist and want to stand out do all this crap. I do respect women but the character that you mentioned above of a feminist sounds like an egoist to me. Now that's me.
regarding she being a wife lets face it if i loved someone like that and married her i will stick by her how rough the sea maybe.
Just because a woman stands up for her rights does not mean she will not make a good partner. I always figured men liked women that were passionate more than those that tolerated everything, having no standards.
After a 7 year marriage is a couple ready to enter into SWINGING?
Every couple reachs several levels. after 7 years of marriage . Are some couples READY to enter into swinging with other attractive couples after such a stretch of TIME ?After a 7 year marriage is a couple ready to enter into SWINGING?
As a couple, you really need to talk with other people who have gotten into it. Find out what the pitfalls are, and there are many. I have some friends who got into that and they were ill-prepared for it. I find it's enough of a challenge to be in a relationship with one other person, let alone three other people. A relationship have to be very strong and secure to survive the potential craziness of swinging. Each extra person who comes into the relationship on an intimate level brings their own insecurities, fears, personality, wants, needs, beliefs, etc. This adds complications that were not there before. There are boundaries in swinging that have to be respected and the communication has to be open and honest. If any one person in the equation doesn't abide by this, they become the weakest link and things crumble, sometimes within the marriage as well. So if you are considering this, do your homework, communicate openly with each other, make sure you want to risk the extra complications.After a 7 year marriage is a couple ready to enter into SWINGING?
Very few couples are. The duration of a marriage doesn't have anything to do with whether or not a couple should consider the swinging lifestyle. The stability and quality of the marriage are what's to be considered. If a couple married 7 years is simply finding themselves in a rut and have the expectation that swinging will pull them out then they're on the wrong track. I can't say what the magic answer is, but I definitely can say that it shouldn't be viewed as a tool to be used to ';fix'; anything or ';add spice'; to a sex life.
I have friends who have been married for 30 years and swinging for the past 15. It works for them and they have a wonderful, loving and happy marriage. That said, they are the first people to say that it's a poor choice for most couples to enter the lifestyle. They've shared many horror stories with me and I don't doubt the truth in what they've told me. Even people in stable marriages have experienced problems after swinging. My friends have told me about several people who thought they were prepared to engage in sexual activity outside their marriage and after the fact found that they weren't. Inevitably someone becomes jealous or finds it to be more than they can handle after the fact. They won't even have anything to do with a couple if they've been in the lifestyle for less than 5-10 years. They don't want the drama and, as they tell it, there's plenty.
If there is the slightest problem in your marriage you shouldn't consider it. If you and your spouse are not both 100% on board, don't consider it. If you and your spouse are not prepared to communicate at levels you've never considered, don't do it. You'll have to be willing to share every feeling about every experience to learn boundaries and not unknowingly hurt one another. It's not a lifestyle where you can just let things slide. Take a LOT of time to talk and consider whether you're really ready for this. Only you and your spouse know whether or not you're ready, or whether you should even continue to pursue the idea. Just know that it's dangerous ground to tread on and that marriages do not survive beyond 5 more years for about 75-80% of the couples who try it.
ETA - Oh, and, as a side note. Eric D pretty much hit the nail on the head. While I've chosen not to participate in the sex part of the evenings, I have been (as a single, unattached, unmarried person) to a couple of swinger parties with my friends out of curiosity. In both cases, at different clubs, about 50% of the people there were what I would classify as average. 48% were butt ugly or obese. 2% were above average. About 75% of them were 40+ years of age. They were all, however, very understanding of the fact that I did not want to engage in sexual activity. Everyone accepted ';no, thank you'; as my response without propositioning me again and continued to be friendly afterwards.
Swinging can be a lot of fun, and actually make you closer. It requires a LOT of maturity. You must go into it with the idea, that if your partner is having a pleasurable experience, you should be happy for him/her. You will find that all couples are not all that attractive. Usually one will be attractive, and the other problematic. Skills in bed will also vary, as will preferences. You will usually find your own partner is better, and more fun. Swinging can reinforce the bond that way. If either of you ever has the slightest twinge of jealousy, don't even consider it. You can meet really interesting people, and go great places and some of the sex will be really good to. Think first. Try it a little at a time. If either of you wants to quit, do so THEN.
Good luck, we had a lot of fun for several years.
You as the couple are ready to enter the swinging lifestyle whenever you both are ready. It doesn't matter if you have been married for 6 months, 7yrs or 30yrs. What matter is, that the two of you are ready for that kind of relationship. That the two of you only sees it as sex, there will be no emotion involved with the other people. Otherwise, your marriage can go wrong, if one of you starts falling for someone else.
Warning, there are very few ';attractive'; couples who swing. Sure there are average looking couples and some BAD looking couples, but attractive? mmmm
Funny, most swinging parties that I have attended, there are very few porn-star look-a-likes. (myself included.)
hell, go for it. you can raise the standards.
Can't put a set time on it, we have been married this long so we should be ready, you either are ready to or you aren't and it's something that both of you have to be willing to do, not one doing it for the other, and the trust has to be there from both sides. Those 2 things aren't dictated by time.
Nah, it will backfire in your face sooner or later. I know a couple (my friends sis %26amp; bro in law) that started swinging thinking it would add spice to their marriage, it backfired. There were new issues resulting from trust to one being hurt because the other enjoyed the swinging sessions so much. Besides, swinging opens you up to STD's.
Mary in Camden, MI
It all depends on the couple. How strong is your communication. I think clear communication, sincere understanding, and strong confidence are key.
If it is an option to try, I would make sure that you both agree that should one of you begin to become uncomfortable that you stop immediately. I would also make sure to openly discuss how each person is feeling through-out it.
all i can say is sick, sick ,sick.
The very thought of watching my husband with another makes my blood boil, i really don't now how you think 7 years is long enough to swing.
There are vows we take when we get married that means to be faith full to one another.
Why don't you spice your marriage by going away for the weekend do things each other and try different things with each other
You know, you are always asking questions about this. If it interests you, JUST GO DO IT!
Stop with the questions, and grow a pair.
Then we'll see you here in a year, after your marriage goes down the toilet like your morals did.
A few are although most aren't. It is a thing that each couple must consider seriously beforehand as the results could destroy the marriage if both aren't mature enough to handle it.
why would you want a dick of another man in you when you have your hubbys.....you want to watch you man screw another women? ALl this does is lead to divorece / cheating......SICK SICK SICK
It has nothing to do with the years you have been married but the maturity of the couples seeking swinging.
Theres no time limit on entering ';swinging'; Its up to them whether they feel its right or wrong, but i'd say you have to REALLY trust your partner.
I wasn't aware that there was a time limit for that. I think it would be whenever you are both ready and comfortable with the idea.
Your spouse is not some cheap date. If you two don't respect each others bodies and hold them sacred then who the hell will?
Well I can't see myself doing that now, but maybe after 7 years.. If things get boring.. I guess it could either make the marriage better, or worse.
';swinging'; is often the END of a marriage
NO, not even after 107 years
you have got to be kidding me. that is the WORST idea ever.
that's just nasty.
umm, don't do that!
ick.
that's up to you.
OH MY GOD...
As a couple, you really need to talk with other people who have gotten into it. Find out what the pitfalls are, and there are many. I have some friends who got into that and they were ill-prepared for it. I find it's enough of a challenge to be in a relationship with one other person, let alone three other people. A relationship have to be very strong and secure to survive the potential craziness of swinging. Each extra person who comes into the relationship on an intimate level brings their own insecurities, fears, personality, wants, needs, beliefs, etc. This adds complications that were not there before. There are boundaries in swinging that have to be respected and the communication has to be open and honest. If any one person in the equation doesn't abide by this, they become the weakest link and things crumble, sometimes within the marriage as well. So if you are considering this, do your homework, communicate openly with each other, make sure you want to risk the extra complications.After a 7 year marriage is a couple ready to enter into SWINGING?
Very few couples are. The duration of a marriage doesn't have anything to do with whether or not a couple should consider the swinging lifestyle. The stability and quality of the marriage are what's to be considered. If a couple married 7 years is simply finding themselves in a rut and have the expectation that swinging will pull them out then they're on the wrong track. I can't say what the magic answer is, but I definitely can say that it shouldn't be viewed as a tool to be used to ';fix'; anything or ';add spice'; to a sex life.
I have friends who have been married for 30 years and swinging for the past 15. It works for them and they have a wonderful, loving and happy marriage. That said, they are the first people to say that it's a poor choice for most couples to enter the lifestyle. They've shared many horror stories with me and I don't doubt the truth in what they've told me. Even people in stable marriages have experienced problems after swinging. My friends have told me about several people who thought they were prepared to engage in sexual activity outside their marriage and after the fact found that they weren't. Inevitably someone becomes jealous or finds it to be more than they can handle after the fact. They won't even have anything to do with a couple if they've been in the lifestyle for less than 5-10 years. They don't want the drama and, as they tell it, there's plenty.
If there is the slightest problem in your marriage you shouldn't consider it. If you and your spouse are not both 100% on board, don't consider it. If you and your spouse are not prepared to communicate at levels you've never considered, don't do it. You'll have to be willing to share every feeling about every experience to learn boundaries and not unknowingly hurt one another. It's not a lifestyle where you can just let things slide. Take a LOT of time to talk and consider whether you're really ready for this. Only you and your spouse know whether or not you're ready, or whether you should even continue to pursue the idea. Just know that it's dangerous ground to tread on and that marriages do not survive beyond 5 more years for about 75-80% of the couples who try it.
ETA - Oh, and, as a side note. Eric D pretty much hit the nail on the head. While I've chosen not to participate in the sex part of the evenings, I have been (as a single, unattached, unmarried person) to a couple of swinger parties with my friends out of curiosity. In both cases, at different clubs, about 50% of the people there were what I would classify as average. 48% were butt ugly or obese. 2% were above average. About 75% of them were 40+ years of age. They were all, however, very understanding of the fact that I did not want to engage in sexual activity. Everyone accepted ';no, thank you'; as my response without propositioning me again and continued to be friendly afterwards.
Swinging can be a lot of fun, and actually make you closer. It requires a LOT of maturity. You must go into it with the idea, that if your partner is having a pleasurable experience, you should be happy for him/her. You will find that all couples are not all that attractive. Usually one will be attractive, and the other problematic. Skills in bed will also vary, as will preferences. You will usually find your own partner is better, and more fun. Swinging can reinforce the bond that way. If either of you ever has the slightest twinge of jealousy, don't even consider it. You can meet really interesting people, and go great places and some of the sex will be really good to. Think first. Try it a little at a time. If either of you wants to quit, do so THEN.
Good luck, we had a lot of fun for several years.
You as the couple are ready to enter the swinging lifestyle whenever you both are ready. It doesn't matter if you have been married for 6 months, 7yrs or 30yrs. What matter is, that the two of you are ready for that kind of relationship. That the two of you only sees it as sex, there will be no emotion involved with the other people. Otherwise, your marriage can go wrong, if one of you starts falling for someone else.
Warning, there are very few ';attractive'; couples who swing. Sure there are average looking couples and some BAD looking couples, but attractive? mmmm
Funny, most swinging parties that I have attended, there are very few porn-star look-a-likes. (myself included.)
hell, go for it. you can raise the standards.
Can't put a set time on it, we have been married this long so we should be ready, you either are ready to or you aren't and it's something that both of you have to be willing to do, not one doing it for the other, and the trust has to be there from both sides. Those 2 things aren't dictated by time.
Nah, it will backfire in your face sooner or later. I know a couple (my friends sis %26amp; bro in law) that started swinging thinking it would add spice to their marriage, it backfired. There were new issues resulting from trust to one being hurt because the other enjoyed the swinging sessions so much. Besides, swinging opens you up to STD's.
Mary in Camden, MI
It all depends on the couple. How strong is your communication. I think clear communication, sincere understanding, and strong confidence are key.
If it is an option to try, I would make sure that you both agree that should one of you begin to become uncomfortable that you stop immediately. I would also make sure to openly discuss how each person is feeling through-out it.
all i can say is sick, sick ,sick.
The very thought of watching my husband with another makes my blood boil, i really don't now how you think 7 years is long enough to swing.
There are vows we take when we get married that means to be faith full to one another.
Why don't you spice your marriage by going away for the weekend do things each other and try different things with each other
You know, you are always asking questions about this. If it interests you, JUST GO DO IT!
Stop with the questions, and grow a pair.
Then we'll see you here in a year, after your marriage goes down the toilet like your morals did.
A few are although most aren't. It is a thing that each couple must consider seriously beforehand as the results could destroy the marriage if both aren't mature enough to handle it.
why would you want a dick of another man in you when you have your hubbys.....you want to watch you man screw another women? ALl this does is lead to divorece / cheating......SICK SICK SICK
It has nothing to do with the years you have been married but the maturity of the couples seeking swinging.
Theres no time limit on entering ';swinging'; Its up to them whether they feel its right or wrong, but i'd say you have to REALLY trust your partner.
I wasn't aware that there was a time limit for that. I think it would be whenever you are both ready and comfortable with the idea.
Your spouse is not some cheap date. If you two don't respect each others bodies and hold them sacred then who the hell will?
Well I can't see myself doing that now, but maybe after 7 years.. If things get boring.. I guess it could either make the marriage better, or worse.
';swinging'; is often the END of a marriage
NO, not even after 107 years
you have got to be kidding me. that is the WORST idea ever.
that's just nasty.
umm, don't do that!
ick.
that's up to you.
OH MY GOD...
If you changed from AGAINST to PRO changing the definition of MARRIAGE, why?
Did someone in your family come out of the closet? Were you ostracized because of your opinion and beliefs? What happened?If you changed from AGAINST to PRO changing the definition of MARRIAGE, why?
I haven't changed. One man, one woman; marriage.
Two gay persons; legal commitment.If you changed from AGAINST to PRO changing the definition of MARRIAGE, why?
My niece ';came out'; a few years ago. He father disowned her. The rest of us still love her to pieces.
I was against gay ';marriage'; but for civil unions. I just want gay marriage to become legal so we can move on. I do find it a bit amusing that some gays, as my niece, don't feel gay ';marriage'; is necessary. She would be pleased with civil unions. In fact, the protests in California embarrassed her.
i did not ';change'; i have always felt that all people should have the same rights.... and be able to marry any adult they fall in love with.
I read this:
Dear Gay People:
Thanks for paying taxes for all those benefits you're denied. With a big shout out to suckers like Annie Leibovitz http://www.usnews.com/blogs/alpha-consum鈥?/a>
And another shout out to suckers who add their domestic partners to their insurance http://www.blueoregon.com/2005/05/the_ga鈥?/a>
PS: Drop dead.
PSS: Thanks for fixing up that old shack. Here's your increased tax bill to fund my kids schools. If we're lucky, you own the property jointly and have it willed to your partner. That way we can slap you with 50% tax rate when one of you dies. Or even better the will gets contested, the property sold and you have to pay the family members to buy your half back and we, of course, get the sales tax money! Win/Win!
PSSS: Our 55% plus divorce rate is your fault.
when that woman in Israel married a dolphin and the world didn't come to an end... I figured God was cool with that so why not let humans marry humans?
http://www.theage.com.au/news/world/woma鈥?/a>
Haven't changed, still against.
Holy Cow, you should be a Republican if you hate the notion of paying taxes for benefits granted to others, it's one of our big beefs with Democrats.
I didn't I'm still against gay marriage and will always be
I haven't changed. One man, one woman; marriage.
Two gay persons; legal commitment.If you changed from AGAINST to PRO changing the definition of MARRIAGE, why?
My niece ';came out'; a few years ago. He father disowned her. The rest of us still love her to pieces.
I was against gay ';marriage'; but for civil unions. I just want gay marriage to become legal so we can move on. I do find it a bit amusing that some gays, as my niece, don't feel gay ';marriage'; is necessary. She would be pleased with civil unions. In fact, the protests in California embarrassed her.
i did not ';change'; i have always felt that all people should have the same rights.... and be able to marry any adult they fall in love with.
I read this:
Dear Gay People:
Thanks for paying taxes for all those benefits you're denied. With a big shout out to suckers like Annie Leibovitz http://www.usnews.com/blogs/alpha-consum鈥?/a>
And another shout out to suckers who add their domestic partners to their insurance http://www.blueoregon.com/2005/05/the_ga鈥?/a>
PS: Drop dead.
PSS: Thanks for fixing up that old shack. Here's your increased tax bill to fund my kids schools. If we're lucky, you own the property jointly and have it willed to your partner. That way we can slap you with 50% tax rate when one of you dies. Or even better the will gets contested, the property sold and you have to pay the family members to buy your half back and we, of course, get the sales tax money! Win/Win!
PSSS: Our 55% plus divorce rate is your fault.
when that woman in Israel married a dolphin and the world didn't come to an end... I figured God was cool with that so why not let humans marry humans?
http://www.theage.com.au/news/world/woma鈥?/a>
Haven't changed, still against.
Holy Cow, you should be a Republican if you hate the notion of paying taxes for benefits granted to others, it's one of our big beefs with Democrats.
I didn't I'm still against gay marriage and will always be
When should I tell a guy that I'm waiting until marriage to have sex?
I'm 18 years old and a virgin.I want to stay a virgin until marriage,how do I know when's the best time to tell a guy this?When should I tell a guy that I'm waiting until marriage to have sex?
well...in the beginning but not on a first date. As long as you aren't leading them on to think they are gonna get it i wouldn't spill it out right away,
whenever you feel comfortable really, thumbs up on the smart choice and good luckWhen should I tell a guy that I'm waiting until marriage to have sex?
Well what i do is i just wear a promise ring on my left ring finger, it indicates that i dont want have sex until marriage...and you never really have to awkwardly put it into conversation...because if he pays a lot of attention to you hell notice that you are always wearing it and ask you about it. But where i live its kinda a big deal and a lot of ppl have the promise rings so everyone knows what they are for...i guess it just depends on the place but that has worked for me. Good luck and congrats on wanting to stay pure! i see so much impurity on this site about sex and everything so its really nice to see another person asking such a cool question. Good luck!
It's probably best to mention it on the first date, honestly.
I'd wait until the date was nearly over if I were you, then say something like: ';Oh, there's something I need to tell you. I don't believe in sex before marriage.';
Lay your cards out straight like that and there's no possibility of misunderstanding.
It's unusual enough in the West that it's worth making it clear right at the beginning of a relationship to avoid misunderstandings.
you go girl! i think staying a virgin is very important! you should tell him right out of the gate...and if you are already involved in a relationship with someone, tell them now! if you are just starting out with someone, tell them right from the get-go. this way, if they reject you, you know they were only interested in sex. If they are cool with it, then you know that he is a good guy!
I always told them up front. Especially after my divorce. Seems to many guys felt a divorced woman must be hungry and asking. That is not true. To me sex without love and commitment is just about as much fun as push ups. But that is my own deeply held belief. I don't owe any man sex for a dinner and a movie.
Tell him now. A lot of guys may mean you all the good in the world. His intentions may be the most honorable. However, he may have tucked in the recesses of his mind that some day in the near future the two of you may engage in sexual activity. Tell him now so he knows what to expect.
Tell him if he asks. However, if you're letting him pull all of the levers and push all of the buttons, he may assume that you'll let him put the cake in the oven. I waited; you will be very glad that you did.
um.. it should be told to him like right away.. cuz guys will try anything fast...
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http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;…
In the beginning of anything!
with every guy i get with i tell them how far i will go, what i like
and then see what they say.. if they dont agree theres nothing to be upset over because you didnt get in too deep
Tell him upfront. That way he already knows your expectations. Make sure you stick to your guns on this one. All men will try to take it away from you. It's a great decsion you have made
tell him as much as you love him there are thing that has to be waited till marriage, if he understand then he's truly a great man. If he make up excuse then he's just there for your body and ditch you. Good luck :)
I am waiting until marriage and if he has a problem with that then you need to move on because he is not worth your time. Tell him pretty quickly.
If you are dating someone seriously, I think you should tell him fairly quickly. Because if he's not willing to wait, then you will not have wasted your time on the wrong person.
Preferably before you have sex.
Once he's in love with your personality. That way, he'll want to wait for your body because he loved you so much :)
When he asks for sex
tell him as soon as you feel it should be told to him
Before he spends money and time on you.
well...in the beginning but not on a first date. As long as you aren't leading them on to think they are gonna get it i wouldn't spill it out right away,
whenever you feel comfortable really, thumbs up on the smart choice and good luckWhen should I tell a guy that I'm waiting until marriage to have sex?
Well what i do is i just wear a promise ring on my left ring finger, it indicates that i dont want have sex until marriage...and you never really have to awkwardly put it into conversation...because if he pays a lot of attention to you hell notice that you are always wearing it and ask you about it. But where i live its kinda a big deal and a lot of ppl have the promise rings so everyone knows what they are for...i guess it just depends on the place but that has worked for me. Good luck and congrats on wanting to stay pure! i see so much impurity on this site about sex and everything so its really nice to see another person asking such a cool question. Good luck!
It's probably best to mention it on the first date, honestly.
I'd wait until the date was nearly over if I were you, then say something like: ';Oh, there's something I need to tell you. I don't believe in sex before marriage.';
Lay your cards out straight like that and there's no possibility of misunderstanding.
It's unusual enough in the West that it's worth making it clear right at the beginning of a relationship to avoid misunderstandings.
you go girl! i think staying a virgin is very important! you should tell him right out of the gate...and if you are already involved in a relationship with someone, tell them now! if you are just starting out with someone, tell them right from the get-go. this way, if they reject you, you know they were only interested in sex. If they are cool with it, then you know that he is a good guy!
I always told them up front. Especially after my divorce. Seems to many guys felt a divorced woman must be hungry and asking. That is not true. To me sex without love and commitment is just about as much fun as push ups. But that is my own deeply held belief. I don't owe any man sex for a dinner and a movie.
Tell him now. A lot of guys may mean you all the good in the world. His intentions may be the most honorable. However, he may have tucked in the recesses of his mind that some day in the near future the two of you may engage in sexual activity. Tell him now so he knows what to expect.
Tell him if he asks. However, if you're letting him pull all of the levers and push all of the buttons, he may assume that you'll let him put the cake in the oven. I waited; you will be very glad that you did.
um.. it should be told to him like right away.. cuz guys will try anything fast...
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In the beginning of anything!
with every guy i get with i tell them how far i will go, what i like
and then see what they say.. if they dont agree theres nothing to be upset over because you didnt get in too deep
Tell him upfront. That way he already knows your expectations. Make sure you stick to your guns on this one. All men will try to take it away from you. It's a great decsion you have made
tell him as much as you love him there are thing that has to be waited till marriage, if he understand then he's truly a great man. If he make up excuse then he's just there for your body and ditch you. Good luck :)
I am waiting until marriage and if he has a problem with that then you need to move on because he is not worth your time. Tell him pretty quickly.
If you are dating someone seriously, I think you should tell him fairly quickly. Because if he's not willing to wait, then you will not have wasted your time on the wrong person.
Preferably before you have sex.
Once he's in love with your personality. That way, he'll want to wait for your body because he loved you so much :)
When he asks for sex
tell him as soon as you feel it should be told to him
Before he spends money and time on you.
Anyone Know? Do you have to be divorced in order to get child support for a child of that marriage?
We live in PA. My daughter is in a TERRIBLY abusive relationship. She keeps telling me that she can't afford to leave her husband because she won't be able to afford her own children. Does she need to have a signed divorce in order to collect support from the children's father.Anyone Know? Do you have to be divorced in order to get child support for a child of that marriage?
Divorce in PA is notorious for giving the woman the short end of the stick. If she's serious about divorce and being financially stable, she should move to Maryland (take her children) and file there. I know of a few cases involving these two states (from both gender sides) and men win in PA (win=don't have to pay a penny), women win in Maryland (I know of a case where the woman got a divorce a long time after she left her husband and took the kids to Maryland and filed. The state of Maryland went after this guy and forced a ton of money out of him. They REALLY stick up for kids rights, well, womens rights....)
Just my experience. I can't guarantee 100% of cases but I've seen at least 3 or 4 couples go through divorce in these states, and the outcome happened to be always the same...Anyone Know? Do you have to be divorced in order to get child support for a child of that marriage?
I'm from PA and no I was not divorced and got child support.
oh my god.... f you.
She dosen't have to be divorced to receive child support.
If they've been married long enough, she may even get alimony or spousal support.
She'll leave when she's fed up. Anyone that makes excuses like this is simply not able (mentally) to leave the relationship.
Check the yellow pages for women's shelters. She may not need to go to a shelter, BUT they can give you some advice that may help you to help your daughter.
I'm terribly sorry that your family is going through this.
In Ohio you do not have to be divorced. Here you just go to Job and Family Services and apply and they will take care of it from there.
Of course not. She can apply for separate support, sometimes called a legal separation. She gets an order for him to leave the house, pay the house bills and pay child support. And if she needs it, a spousal abuse order for him to keep away from her and the children.
Get ahold of a lawyer. The first consultation is free.
The way the system is everywhere. You can not do anything that deals with this without a lawyer to protect your interests. And remember...grandparents have legal rights also.
No. All fathers must support their children. Good luck!
Not sure about Pa. In La., you do have to file for seperation. Check with an attorney.
nope you don't have to be, just go to family services or any family court.
My husband had refused to contribute to the household. i did file for child support while we were still married and living together and i won. i do live in PA.mask movie
Divorce in PA is notorious for giving the woman the short end of the stick. If she's serious about divorce and being financially stable, she should move to Maryland (take her children) and file there. I know of a few cases involving these two states (from both gender sides) and men win in PA (win=don't have to pay a penny), women win in Maryland (I know of a case where the woman got a divorce a long time after she left her husband and took the kids to Maryland and filed. The state of Maryland went after this guy and forced a ton of money out of him. They REALLY stick up for kids rights, well, womens rights....)
Just my experience. I can't guarantee 100% of cases but I've seen at least 3 or 4 couples go through divorce in these states, and the outcome happened to be always the same...Anyone Know? Do you have to be divorced in order to get child support for a child of that marriage?
I'm from PA and no I was not divorced and got child support.
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oh my god.... f you.
She dosen't have to be divorced to receive child support.
If they've been married long enough, she may even get alimony or spousal support.
She'll leave when she's fed up. Anyone that makes excuses like this is simply not able (mentally) to leave the relationship.
Check the yellow pages for women's shelters. She may not need to go to a shelter, BUT they can give you some advice that may help you to help your daughter.
I'm terribly sorry that your family is going through this.
In Ohio you do not have to be divorced. Here you just go to Job and Family Services and apply and they will take care of it from there.
Of course not. She can apply for separate support, sometimes called a legal separation. She gets an order for him to leave the house, pay the house bills and pay child support. And if she needs it, a spousal abuse order for him to keep away from her and the children.
Get ahold of a lawyer. The first consultation is free.
The way the system is everywhere. You can not do anything that deals with this without a lawyer to protect your interests. And remember...grandparents have legal rights also.
No. All fathers must support their children. Good luck!
Not sure about Pa. In La., you do have to file for seperation. Check with an attorney.
nope you don't have to be, just go to family services or any family court.
My husband had refused to contribute to the household. i did file for child support while we were still married and living together and i won. i do live in PA.
I married my husband in a church in Cyprus, is the marriage legal in the UK?
At the time we could not afford to do the civil ceromony as well and planned to do it later. We are no longer together and I wondered if i need a divorce.I married my husband in a church in Cyprus, is the marriage legal in the UK?
All overseas marriages are recognized in UK ';IF'; the marriage was conducted according to the laws of the country where it was held. So you need to find out whether your marriage is officially recognized in Cyprus or not. If it is, then it is also valid in UK, provided you have a valid marriage certificate also.
You can also contact your local citizen advice bureau and they will guide you further.
In case you find out that your marriage is valid, then you do need to get a divorce. If you are a UK national and domiciled here or live here permanently, then you can apply to your local family court for divorce. It doesn't matter if your husband is in UK or not.
Remember ! That UK law states that you must me married for at least one year, before you can apply for a divorce.
Hope this helps.I married my husband in a church in Cyprus, is the marriage legal in the UK?
Go see a pope..
You wouldn't want to get married again with them telling you that your all ready married lol
All overseas marriages are recognized in UK ';IF'; the marriage was conducted according to the laws of the country where it was held. So you need to find out whether your marriage is officially recognized in Cyprus or not. If it is, then it is also valid in UK, provided you have a valid marriage certificate also.
You can also contact your local citizen advice bureau and they will guide you further.
In case you find out that your marriage is valid, then you do need to get a divorce. If you are a UK national and domiciled here or live here permanently, then you can apply to your local family court for divorce. It doesn't matter if your husband is in UK or not.
Remember ! That UK law states that you must me married for at least one year, before you can apply for a divorce.
Hope this helps.I married my husband in a church in Cyprus, is the marriage legal in the UK?
Go see a pope..
You wouldn't want to get married again with them telling you that your all ready married lol
Can my wife, who is Korean, get a working visa after marriage in USA?
I am a US citizen and my fiancee is a Korean national here on a student visa. We are getting married and I want to know if she can somehow immediately find work instead of waiting x amount of years for her green card.Can my wife, who is Korean, get a working visa after marriage in USA?
As soon as you get married, just file the paperwork to adjust her status. Her permission to work, get a ss#, and drivers license will come in 2-5 months. It will take 8 months, give or take, for the whole process to be finished and her to get the green card.
Good luck.
Belle
EDIT: Sweetdaddy....he said she was here on a student visa, so she is here legally. It also doesn't matter if she from north or south.Can my wife, who is Korean, get a working visa after marriage in USA?
Yes, but not exactly immediately. It may take a few months for
processing. After marriage the primary necessary forms are
I-130 and I-485 to be filed concurrently. For the forms and
instructions see uscis.gov.
It does not take YEARS. A few months, if she is here legally ! Is she North, or South ?
hope not too many real Americans need work
As soon as you get married, just file the paperwork to adjust her status. Her permission to work, get a ss#, and drivers license will come in 2-5 months. It will take 8 months, give or take, for the whole process to be finished and her to get the green card.
Good luck.
Belle
EDIT: Sweetdaddy....he said she was here on a student visa, so she is here legally. It also doesn't matter if she from north or south.Can my wife, who is Korean, get a working visa after marriage in USA?
Yes, but not exactly immediately. It may take a few months for
processing. After marriage the primary necessary forms are
I-130 and I-485 to be filed concurrently. For the forms and
instructions see uscis.gov.
It does not take YEARS. A few months, if she is here legally ! Is she North, or South ?
hope not too many real Americans need work
Justice of the peace marriage: How does this work? Where do I find my local?
Me and my girlfriend are very much in love, but are living on a tight budget. We're eager to get married before we do an actual, big family ceremony...can someone give me info on getting married via my local justice of the peace? How do I locate this person? No internet searches have helped much. Justice of the peace marriage: How does this work? Where do I find my local?
Call your county courthouse. In my county if was the clerk of the court who performed my wedding vows.Justice of the peace marriage: How does this work? Where do I find my local?
registrar of marriages will help you. get married and lead a good life with better understanding as made for each other
Call your county courthouse. In my county if was the clerk of the court who performed my wedding vows.Justice of the peace marriage: How does this work? Where do I find my local?
registrar of marriages will help you. get married and lead a good life with better understanding as made for each other
OK nice people of yahoo would you rather save yourself till marriage?
Would you rather save yourself till marriage (not for any religion purposes or anything like that) just as a self respect act and a act of showing respect to your significant other. I know I would how many think it is a good moral or idea to do that? Thanks and be honest please.OK nice people of yahoo would you rather save yourself till marriage?
Yes,I'm in my thirties and still saving it.If it's a turn off for the guys ,oh well.It's not like you have a disease to give them.If a person can't respect you,you have to respect yourself,who else is going to do that for you.Stick to your morals and don't let people be mean to you.They have to me and the more they are the better and stronger it makes me.Hope this helps!OK nice people of yahoo would you rather save yourself till marriage?
not necessarily til marriage, but i'm definitely waiting til i find the right person. i also would have to willing to handle the possible consequences and the other person would too. I'm not about to have sex with someone, risk getting pregnant and then him leave.
yes, it is morally right, but as for me its as much a religious reason as a personal reason. I only want to give that special part away to my husband on our wedding night...think of how special, how romantic, how sweet that would be to share that together.
I don't want to save myself for marriage because I have no idea when that's going to be and I don't even know if i ever will get married due to my sexuality
yes.
i'm a christian so that's what i believe plus the respect thing. gurls don't need to be given there self's away like their not special or somthing!
yeah. totally. religion and other stuff
Yes,I'm in my thirties and still saving it.If it's a turn off for the guys ,oh well.It's not like you have a disease to give them.If a person can't respect you,you have to respect yourself,who else is going to do that for you.Stick to your morals and don't let people be mean to you.They have to me and the more they are the better and stronger it makes me.Hope this helps!OK nice people of yahoo would you rather save yourself till marriage?
not necessarily til marriage, but i'm definitely waiting til i find the right person. i also would have to willing to handle the possible consequences and the other person would too. I'm not about to have sex with someone, risk getting pregnant and then him leave.
yes, it is morally right, but as for me its as much a religious reason as a personal reason. I only want to give that special part away to my husband on our wedding night...think of how special, how romantic, how sweet that would be to share that together.
I don't want to save myself for marriage because I have no idea when that's going to be and I don't even know if i ever will get married due to my sexuality
yes.
i'm a christian so that's what i believe plus the respect thing. gurls don't need to be given there self's away like their not special or somthing!
yeah. totally. religion and other stuff
In india what is the best way to share finances after marriage.?
The couple are working and the boy is having huge ancestral property independently.Should he share his property with wife ? Should we share income or expenses or both ?In india what is the best way to share finances after marriage.?
I think, this is about mutual understanding between husband and wife. If both are committed to run the family with four hands, they will share their finances. If the boy is the independent owner of ancestral property, the wife has an automatic right to the property too. Hence there is no need to go into legal transfer of names or legal sharing.In india what is the best way to share finances after marriage.?
the boy can share his ancestral property by gift to his wife and can also share his money by depositing it in joint a/c. but there is a question of believe on his wife. is it there ?
why????????....It's always d man..who is forced to share...
When he is already sharing his life with u...??
If wife is earning...then she should demad any share frm her husband...
U shoulb more interested in his social life dan his';Ancestral'; property...
I think, this is about mutual understanding between husband and wife. If both are committed to run the family with four hands, they will share their finances. If the boy is the independent owner of ancestral property, the wife has an automatic right to the property too. Hence there is no need to go into legal transfer of names or legal sharing.In india what is the best way to share finances after marriage.?
the boy can share his ancestral property by gift to his wife and can also share his money by depositing it in joint a/c. but there is a question of believe on his wife. is it there ?
why????????....It's always d man..who is forced to share...
When he is already sharing his life with u...??
If wife is earning...then she should demad any share frm her husband...
U shoulb more interested in his social life dan his';Ancestral'; property...
Do you think a couples' religion is a big factor in marriage?
Do you think it's important for both husband and wife to be the same faith?Do you think a couples' religion is a big factor in marriage?
Yes. IT can hurt your marriage later, and how you raise your children. One might want to raise there children a certain way, base on there beliefs, and the other will not have it. The kids will be confuse. One person will hate that the other do not agree with what they think, and it will lead to trouble. IF both have the same faith, they will think the same way and life will be great. The kids will be fine. Trust me, i know. If i could tell people one thing about marriage, that would be, to marry someone with the same faith. Life with them would be so much easier for you and your kids.Do you think a couples' religion is a big factor in marriage?
I am happy to hear you're married and that you lead a righteous life.
In the USA, the laws would allow a divorcee to take the children and the kids can become another faith. It's a touchy scenario. If both marriage partners share the same faith, it makes it easier , also with in-laws, extended family.
No...
ye sbeing of different religions for sure take its toll
my step family is catholic and my dads family is lutheran, and since im not catholic i will no longer go to cathlic services, not only that but when i did go i didnt do all the same prayers, and other things i didnt believe.
my dad now feels the same way, and my stpe mom is upset about it....
yes marrying into another faith is NOT permitted in Christianity.
It encourages children in marriage to be brought up non-Christian and it encourages the Christian partner to be tempted from their faith or having to see sin from the non-Christian partner.
@';Do you think it's important for both husband and wife to be the same faith?';
Yes.
Equally yoked...joined together in thought.
Under one God.
I'm speaking about the God of the Universe, Who's Son is YShua.
One man and one woman marriage.
It's only a big factor in a marriage if it's a big factor in the lives of the individuals getting married. In my marriage, it's no factor at all. It's completely irrelevant.
I think for the sake of all involved, the kids, parents and both families its a lot easier and healthier if they share the same faith. Marriage can be hard enough sometimes without adding differences in basic life beliefs.
Though having the same religious beliefs makes life much easier, there are plenty of people who don't.
It's not faith that matters most, it's respecting each other regardless.
Equally ';Yoked'; is always easier on the marriage.
(Yoked being that wooden harness that bonds two farm animals together when they have to plow a field)
Yes.
Amos 3:3
3 Can two walk together, except they be agreed?
(KJV)
If a couple is meant to be together, they will open mindedly respect the others beliefs.
It's a factor; how big it is depends on the extent either spouse practices said religion.
Only if it's a big factor in their life.
yes I do.
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Yes. IT can hurt your marriage later, and how you raise your children. One might want to raise there children a certain way, base on there beliefs, and the other will not have it. The kids will be confuse. One person will hate that the other do not agree with what they think, and it will lead to trouble. IF both have the same faith, they will think the same way and life will be great. The kids will be fine. Trust me, i know. If i could tell people one thing about marriage, that would be, to marry someone with the same faith. Life with them would be so much easier for you and your kids.Do you think a couples' religion is a big factor in marriage?
I am happy to hear you're married and that you lead a righteous life.
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In the USA, the laws would allow a divorcee to take the children and the kids can become another faith. It's a touchy scenario. If both marriage partners share the same faith, it makes it easier , also with in-laws, extended family.
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ye sbeing of different religions for sure take its toll
my step family is catholic and my dads family is lutheran, and since im not catholic i will no longer go to cathlic services, not only that but when i did go i didnt do all the same prayers, and other things i didnt believe.
my dad now feels the same way, and my stpe mom is upset about it....
yes marrying into another faith is NOT permitted in Christianity.
It encourages children in marriage to be brought up non-Christian and it encourages the Christian partner to be tempted from their faith or having to see sin from the non-Christian partner.
@';Do you think it's important for both husband and wife to be the same faith?';
Yes.
Equally yoked...joined together in thought.
Under one God.
I'm speaking about the God of the Universe, Who's Son is YShua.
One man and one woman marriage.
It's only a big factor in a marriage if it's a big factor in the lives of the individuals getting married. In my marriage, it's no factor at all. It's completely irrelevant.
I think for the sake of all involved, the kids, parents and both families its a lot easier and healthier if they share the same faith. Marriage can be hard enough sometimes without adding differences in basic life beliefs.
Though having the same religious beliefs makes life much easier, there are plenty of people who don't.
It's not faith that matters most, it's respecting each other regardless.
Equally ';Yoked'; is always easier on the marriage.
(Yoked being that wooden harness that bonds two farm animals together when they have to plow a field)
Yes.
Amos 3:3
3 Can two walk together, except they be agreed?
(KJV)
If a couple is meant to be together, they will open mindedly respect the others beliefs.
It's a factor; how big it is depends on the extent either spouse practices said religion.
Only if it's a big factor in their life.
yes I do.
yes i do
How can I want marriage and love when I been so burned ?
I want to to have the need to marry one day but the fear I wont keeps me kind of down. Every man I have dealt with so far were typical guys who made me feel they only wanted se.x nothing real. How do I get the feeling back of wanting to marry one day. I fear this negativity (brought on by negative male experiences) will keep me alone?How can I want marriage and love when I been so burned ?
I used to feel that way when I was younger. I hated men because of my bad relationship with my father. I am now 32 and I've had a number of relatioships. Some were OK some were very bad. I could blame the men but what's the point? When bad experiences happen to us we have to take a step back and learn a lesson and not repeat it in future. And the fear? I learnt that by holding onto fear I was letting it win and control me. But I wanted to enjoy my life and continue dating men so you have to hold onto hope and keep going. You can't let fear and being burned rule your life. Don't let the past stop you from making a happier future for yourself.
Take things slowly and don't rush things with a guy that you like. Be realistic about his character and your compatability. If you're not sure don't take it further. But hang onto hope and keep dating and I hope in time you meet someone nice, and someone who can restore your faith in marriage. It's still a wonderful thing to want to get married so don't let your crappy past boyfriends stop you from believing in something. Their gone. Just be choosy about who you let into your life in future and test men more carefully. Take care :)How can I want marriage and love when I been so burned ?
It's up to you. The men you attract and deal with are based off what you're putting out there. If you're looking for a real relationship, don't settle for anything less. When it becomes apparent that a man is only interested in sex, stop dealing with him. You can't change him so you'd only be wasting your time to continue with him. Make a list of the qualities you want as well as the ones you absolutely cannot put up with. Once you know what you want, it's a lot easier to see it when it's in front of you.
You're outlook on life is strictly up to you. So get out there and shake those losers and find someone worth your time.
Been there, done that, more than once, and got 5 t shirts. What do you do after the broken heart. I thought I would never find the right one, or anyone who loved me for me and did not have a gimmic or something up their sleeve. I felt hopeless and many times would cry because I felt i would die old and alone, with a bunch of cats, really, no bullshit. I can't promise that the one will come to you, but I can tell you that, there are good men out there. Good men that will treat you well and not break your heart. Finding him can be a MF, but once you found him, all the past hurts, and pains seem as if they have never exsisted. You won't even too much remember the pain of them. Good Luck Little Lady.
Keep looking , and make your boundaries clear from the beginning. The right one will stick around while the others will eventually fall away.
Big J is right. Date a guy that you normally wouldn't be attracted to and you might find you are very attracted to him. I am more attracted by how a man treats me than the way he looks. Looks come and go but the way he treats me will be what I live with.
When you meet the right man you will know!
I knew on the first date with my now wife! ! !
13 happy years and going strong.
Try dating guys you wouldn't normally date.
Just don't get married
Stop dating a ssholes?
you will just know when you meet the right one
why don't you try a dating service?
I used to feel that way when I was younger. I hated men because of my bad relationship with my father. I am now 32 and I've had a number of relatioships. Some were OK some were very bad. I could blame the men but what's the point? When bad experiences happen to us we have to take a step back and learn a lesson and not repeat it in future. And the fear? I learnt that by holding onto fear I was letting it win and control me. But I wanted to enjoy my life and continue dating men so you have to hold onto hope and keep going. You can't let fear and being burned rule your life. Don't let the past stop you from making a happier future for yourself.
Take things slowly and don't rush things with a guy that you like. Be realistic about his character and your compatability. If you're not sure don't take it further. But hang onto hope and keep dating and I hope in time you meet someone nice, and someone who can restore your faith in marriage. It's still a wonderful thing to want to get married so don't let your crappy past boyfriends stop you from believing in something. Their gone. Just be choosy about who you let into your life in future and test men more carefully. Take care :)How can I want marriage and love when I been so burned ?
It's up to you. The men you attract and deal with are based off what you're putting out there. If you're looking for a real relationship, don't settle for anything less. When it becomes apparent that a man is only interested in sex, stop dealing with him. You can't change him so you'd only be wasting your time to continue with him. Make a list of the qualities you want as well as the ones you absolutely cannot put up with. Once you know what you want, it's a lot easier to see it when it's in front of you.
You're outlook on life is strictly up to you. So get out there and shake those losers and find someone worth your time.
Been there, done that, more than once, and got 5 t shirts. What do you do after the broken heart. I thought I would never find the right one, or anyone who loved me for me and did not have a gimmic or something up their sleeve. I felt hopeless and many times would cry because I felt i would die old and alone, with a bunch of cats, really, no bullshit. I can't promise that the one will come to you, but I can tell you that, there are good men out there. Good men that will treat you well and not break your heart. Finding him can be a MF, but once you found him, all the past hurts, and pains seem as if they have never exsisted. You won't even too much remember the pain of them. Good Luck Little Lady.
Keep looking , and make your boundaries clear from the beginning. The right one will stick around while the others will eventually fall away.
Big J is right. Date a guy that you normally wouldn't be attracted to and you might find you are very attracted to him. I am more attracted by how a man treats me than the way he looks. Looks come and go but the way he treats me will be what I live with.
When you meet the right man you will know!
I knew on the first date with my now wife! ! !
13 happy years and going strong.
Try dating guys you wouldn't normally date.
Just don't get married
Stop dating a ssholes?
you will just know when you meet the right one
why don't you try a dating service?
Do you think gay marriage/civil unions will become legal in the United States and how long before it occurs?
Many basic rights taken for granted today were illegal and very unpopular in the not too distant past (interracial marriage, women voting) and were also labeled as blasphemy and against the word of God. Many of us find it hard to believe that the vast majority of people at those times were against these basic rights. Do you think we will view gay marriage/equality in this same light 100 years from now?Do you think gay marriage/civil unions will become legal in the United States and how long before it occurs?
i dont get the whole thing, about giving gays, such a hard time about getting married. this country has gone to the dogs. it has no morals, anything goes. the way i look at it is, as long as its not hurting anybody, its not going to cost us anything. whats wrong with it?our goverment has no problem with keeping up all these illegals up, to me thats worst than, letting gays get married. but what do i know, i just work and pay taxes?Do you think gay marriage/civil unions will become legal in the United States and how long before it occurs?
I certainly hope it becomes legal and soon. I am 60, and I would be thrilled if it would happen before I or my partner dies. Unfortunately, we are in a political climate right now where the conservative party (Republicans) have become afraid of the fundamentalist right wing church, and are controlled by them. I find it really sad, because until this decade I had been a supporter of the Republican Party and found them fiscally conservative. But they have really turned around. Not only are they controlled by the folks mentioned above, they have become spenders supreme, and have lost all fiscal responsibility. I believe if we can change the political tide in November and in 2008, we will see progress and reason in this area. If not, it will be a long road. The powers that be are more interested in staying in power by promoting legal bigotry and discrimination.
I'll leave the legal arguments alone; yes, we'll have same-sex marriage within about 10-20 years .... it's a generational issue ... and the younger folks in our country just simply don't get freaked out by gays and other ';sexual outlaws';
I hope not. I think eventually America will become more accepting, as it has in the past. I hope that eventually people will be people, no matter what they look like or who they sleep with. The point about basic rights we take for granted now is a good one. Let's just hope history continues that trend.
I am appalled by the idea that a woman can marry a woman!!! To me you can't get any sicker!!! I will never give in to the idea of gay marriage, but I'm afraid that it's already done it's damage. The morals of our country will never me the same. But I'll tell you one thing, I will never think of it as ';Right';!!!
First this is not any constitutional right, sexual preference is not protected nor should it ever be,
There is no comparison between women and interracial to perverted sexual acts, trying to make that comparison is first silly and next a real harm to the actual civil rights movement in our nation.
No, I forsee homosexual relatoinships being banned completely latter on.
Friar Chuck and Pokadots and many others above have missed one of the fundamental issues involved. Same-sex marriage has nothing to do with sex. And homosexual relations has nothing to do with marriage.
Is it legal in most US states for two people -- a man and a woman -- to get married and never have sex? Absolutely. Sexual relations is not a requirement to get a marriage license. And before Conservatives go point to those cases where a marriage was annulled because of no sexual relations, the actual legal grounds were fraudulent inducement. Not lack of sex.
So, two people (man and woman) can get married for the legal and financial benefits without ever having sex. And the biggest opposition that religious and conservative folks have over same-sex marriage appears to be the homosexual sexual relations aspect.
So, if two straight men, who will never have sex and will never kiss in public (or private) want to get married, for the legal and tax benefits, the Religious Conservatives shouldn't have a problem, right? I mean, nothing in the Bible says that two men cannot be involved in a financial partnership. Or gain other legal benefits through a government registration process. And we're talking about straight men, not gays, so there's no homosexual relations problem? So what's the problem? Do any of the religious arguments against same-sex marriage apply when sex is taken completely out of the question? No ';perverted sex acts'; as some have said, so no problem, right?
If not, then the only justification for denying same-sex couples the legal benefits of state-sanction monogamy is religious prejudice. And any religion that is so hypocritical that it says ';love thy neighbor, as long as they don't do anything you don't like'; I really feel sorry for.
The Supreme Court has already said that homosexual relations in private between consenting adults is none of the government's business. Lawrence v. Texas. That's not going to change, no matter how conservative a court the Republicans get appointed. And the Supreme Court has already said that marriage is a fundamental right, and that right includes choosing your spouse. Loving v. Virginia. And absent some religious/moral issue (for example, taking sex itself out of the equation) that's not going to change either.
So, the perfect test case is two straight people of the same gender who want to get married, for the legal benefits. Because then, homosexual conduct isn't an issue. And we're back to pure gender-based discrimination based on religious prejudice.
And anyone who tries to enforce religious prejudice through laws has forgotten the reason this country was founded in the first place.
I think that Gay marriages should be allowed.. So many times you see a gay person who married a straight person just to look ';normal'; they then live a lie of a marriage because one is not hetero. If gays want to marry let them. Its not hurting anyone.
The gay marriage issue is mostly a Karl-Rove-inspired idea to get religious conservatives who otherwise don't vote out to the polls to stick it to the gays. Ten years ago 90+% of us didn't want gay marriage. Two years ago it was just over 60%. Now it's just over half. In 2008 those who are against gay marriage will be in the minority.
In response to poster above, in Vermont two straight guys have already gotten a civil union.
I think it will become legal, probably within the next 10 years.
I don't really know -- But I'm sure the liberals will keep pushing until they get what they want.
In a hundred years liberals will have every thing made legal. You can have sexual intecourse with your dog or your dog can have it with you--all sorts of things we consider repulsive today will be commonplace.
But hey, I won't be here to see it.
i dont get the whole thing, about giving gays, such a hard time about getting married. this country has gone to the dogs. it has no morals, anything goes. the way i look at it is, as long as its not hurting anybody, its not going to cost us anything. whats wrong with it?our goverment has no problem with keeping up all these illegals up, to me thats worst than, letting gays get married. but what do i know, i just work and pay taxes?Do you think gay marriage/civil unions will become legal in the United States and how long before it occurs?
I certainly hope it becomes legal and soon. I am 60, and I would be thrilled if it would happen before I or my partner dies. Unfortunately, we are in a political climate right now where the conservative party (Republicans) have become afraid of the fundamentalist right wing church, and are controlled by them. I find it really sad, because until this decade I had been a supporter of the Republican Party and found them fiscally conservative. But they have really turned around. Not only are they controlled by the folks mentioned above, they have become spenders supreme, and have lost all fiscal responsibility. I believe if we can change the political tide in November and in 2008, we will see progress and reason in this area. If not, it will be a long road. The powers that be are more interested in staying in power by promoting legal bigotry and discrimination.
I'll leave the legal arguments alone; yes, we'll have same-sex marriage within about 10-20 years .... it's a generational issue ... and the younger folks in our country just simply don't get freaked out by gays and other ';sexual outlaws';
I hope not. I think eventually America will become more accepting, as it has in the past. I hope that eventually people will be people, no matter what they look like or who they sleep with. The point about basic rights we take for granted now is a good one. Let's just hope history continues that trend.
I am appalled by the idea that a woman can marry a woman!!! To me you can't get any sicker!!! I will never give in to the idea of gay marriage, but I'm afraid that it's already done it's damage. The morals of our country will never me the same. But I'll tell you one thing, I will never think of it as ';Right';!!!
First this is not any constitutional right, sexual preference is not protected nor should it ever be,
There is no comparison between women and interracial to perverted sexual acts, trying to make that comparison is first silly and next a real harm to the actual civil rights movement in our nation.
No, I forsee homosexual relatoinships being banned completely latter on.
Friar Chuck and Pokadots and many others above have missed one of the fundamental issues involved. Same-sex marriage has nothing to do with sex. And homosexual relations has nothing to do with marriage.
Is it legal in most US states for two people -- a man and a woman -- to get married and never have sex? Absolutely. Sexual relations is not a requirement to get a marriage license. And before Conservatives go point to those cases where a marriage was annulled because of no sexual relations, the actual legal grounds were fraudulent inducement. Not lack of sex.
So, two people (man and woman) can get married for the legal and financial benefits without ever having sex. And the biggest opposition that religious and conservative folks have over same-sex marriage appears to be the homosexual sexual relations aspect.
So, if two straight men, who will never have sex and will never kiss in public (or private) want to get married, for the legal and tax benefits, the Religious Conservatives shouldn't have a problem, right? I mean, nothing in the Bible says that two men cannot be involved in a financial partnership. Or gain other legal benefits through a government registration process. And we're talking about straight men, not gays, so there's no homosexual relations problem? So what's the problem? Do any of the religious arguments against same-sex marriage apply when sex is taken completely out of the question? No ';perverted sex acts'; as some have said, so no problem, right?
If not, then the only justification for denying same-sex couples the legal benefits of state-sanction monogamy is religious prejudice. And any religion that is so hypocritical that it says ';love thy neighbor, as long as they don't do anything you don't like'; I really feel sorry for.
The Supreme Court has already said that homosexual relations in private between consenting adults is none of the government's business. Lawrence v. Texas. That's not going to change, no matter how conservative a court the Republicans get appointed. And the Supreme Court has already said that marriage is a fundamental right, and that right includes choosing your spouse. Loving v. Virginia. And absent some religious/moral issue (for example, taking sex itself out of the equation) that's not going to change either.
So, the perfect test case is two straight people of the same gender who want to get married, for the legal benefits. Because then, homosexual conduct isn't an issue. And we're back to pure gender-based discrimination based on religious prejudice.
And anyone who tries to enforce religious prejudice through laws has forgotten the reason this country was founded in the first place.
I think that Gay marriages should be allowed.. So many times you see a gay person who married a straight person just to look ';normal'; they then live a lie of a marriage because one is not hetero. If gays want to marry let them. Its not hurting anyone.
The gay marriage issue is mostly a Karl-Rove-inspired idea to get religious conservatives who otherwise don't vote out to the polls to stick it to the gays. Ten years ago 90+% of us didn't want gay marriage. Two years ago it was just over 60%. Now it's just over half. In 2008 those who are against gay marriage will be in the minority.
In response to poster above, in Vermont two straight guys have already gotten a civil union.
I think it will become legal, probably within the next 10 years.
I don't really know -- But I'm sure the liberals will keep pushing until they get what they want.
In a hundred years liberals will have every thing made legal. You can have sexual intecourse with your dog or your dog can have it with you--all sorts of things we consider repulsive today will be commonplace.
But hey, I won't be here to see it.
How do you survive marriage sucessfully?
it sounds kinda scary... Im totally comittment phobic. how do you make it work?How do you survive marriage sucessfully?
Communication -respect- trust if in the relationship those fact doesn;t appear i dont think it can surviveHow do you survive marriage sucessfully?
You shouldn't have to survive marriage. If you are commitment phobic that just means that you haven't found a person that you want to spend the rest of your life with yet. When you find the person that is right for you just make sure that you have a lot of the same values in life. Make sure that you fully trust each other and have an idea of how you want to live. If you differ on some things that's okay and can be overcome but there are probably some things that you wouldn't change for the world and just make sure that the other person is willing to accept that. It's all about give and take!
Marriage is a scary venture. I don't blame you for feeling the way you do!!! I don't know if I've survived marriage successfully--it's had lots of bumps and bruises. I think in the beginning of the relationship things are usually very good. As time goes on, you start to worry about things like increased arguing, bouts of lack of trust, and in general just trying to get used to each other's habits.
You know what is a good lesson to learn? Your spouse loves you. I know that seems pretty simple, but if someone marries you, they love you. When you deal with all the drudgery of everyday life and you handle all the garbage that you need to handle, it's hard to lose the fact that there is love.
How do you survive life successfully?? you dont, you just live it and hope that the choices you make are the right ones.
to ';survive'; marriage its the same sort of thing, marry the person that fits you best. talk problems through and dont jump to conclusions, you are not at every time in your life or marraige going to be happy. marriage like life has alot of ups and downs, its a roller coaster ride you can only hope that your partner is there for this crazy life as well.
The biggest mistake people make with marriage is rushing in before they are ready. Make sure you choose the right person for oyu. You need someone that has had enough life experience that there not going to want to go out and run around on you or make stupid mistakes all the time to cause fights. You need chemistry and good communication. It also helps to have similar intrests and beliefs. I am not saying you have to like everything they do but you have to be able to sustain the relationsip for a long time without wanting someone else.
Marriage is not 50/50 like people say. It is 100/100. Both people have to be willing to give it 100% all of the time. It can be very hard, but it can also be so very easy. It is scary because you just never know what is going to happen. When you're ready you'll know it, and if you choose wisely and treat kindly you'll be just fine.
You don't look at is something you need to survive. Communication, laughter, sex, love, trust are all important.
You need to figure out why you are so scared. Marriage is not for everyone. It is okay if you don't want to get married.
Well get over your commitment phobia is a start. Having a phobia about commiting to a person is only going to make the marriage rocky and more than likely it won't survive.
You make it sound like you're on a desert island with one bottle of water and a wet book of matches.
Get real. It's up to you how it goes. If you can't communicate your likes and dislike and take control of your destiny then join a convent.
Communication. I am happily married, 18 years. Any time that my husband and I had any problems, it was because of lack of communications. Saying what you feel makes all the difference in the world.
You survive a car wreck or a bout with a disease.....lol. You have to be ready for marriage. It takes work on both sides. Communication is the big thing.
A wise man sees danger and hides himself, a fool rushes in.
I don't know, great question. so far I have not survived my marriage at all, I'm more like some kind of freaking ';disaster survivor';.
Be well.
You'll need a lifejacket, a swiss knife and basic survival training.
Communication, Trust, and Love
Alot and Alot of Patience...
GOD in your marrige, communication, trust, and lots of physical contact.
Large amounts of alcohol.
patience and tolerance.
communication and trust are to big factors.If you don't talk and if you don't trust than it won't last
shoot your spouse. it's the only way to survive.
adjust to it
Communication -respect- trust if in the relationship those fact doesn;t appear i dont think it can surviveHow do you survive marriage sucessfully?
You shouldn't have to survive marriage. If you are commitment phobic that just means that you haven't found a person that you want to spend the rest of your life with yet. When you find the person that is right for you just make sure that you have a lot of the same values in life. Make sure that you fully trust each other and have an idea of how you want to live. If you differ on some things that's okay and can be overcome but there are probably some things that you wouldn't change for the world and just make sure that the other person is willing to accept that. It's all about give and take!
Marriage is a scary venture. I don't blame you for feeling the way you do!!! I don't know if I've survived marriage successfully--it's had lots of bumps and bruises. I think in the beginning of the relationship things are usually very good. As time goes on, you start to worry about things like increased arguing, bouts of lack of trust, and in general just trying to get used to each other's habits.
You know what is a good lesson to learn? Your spouse loves you. I know that seems pretty simple, but if someone marries you, they love you. When you deal with all the drudgery of everyday life and you handle all the garbage that you need to handle, it's hard to lose the fact that there is love.
How do you survive life successfully?? you dont, you just live it and hope that the choices you make are the right ones.
to ';survive'; marriage its the same sort of thing, marry the person that fits you best. talk problems through and dont jump to conclusions, you are not at every time in your life or marraige going to be happy. marriage like life has alot of ups and downs, its a roller coaster ride you can only hope that your partner is there for this crazy life as well.
The biggest mistake people make with marriage is rushing in before they are ready. Make sure you choose the right person for oyu. You need someone that has had enough life experience that there not going to want to go out and run around on you or make stupid mistakes all the time to cause fights. You need chemistry and good communication. It also helps to have similar intrests and beliefs. I am not saying you have to like everything they do but you have to be able to sustain the relationsip for a long time without wanting someone else.
Marriage is not 50/50 like people say. It is 100/100. Both people have to be willing to give it 100% all of the time. It can be very hard, but it can also be so very easy. It is scary because you just never know what is going to happen. When you're ready you'll know it, and if you choose wisely and treat kindly you'll be just fine.
You don't look at is something you need to survive. Communication, laughter, sex, love, trust are all important.
You need to figure out why you are so scared. Marriage is not for everyone. It is okay if you don't want to get married.
Well get over your commitment phobia is a start. Having a phobia about commiting to a person is only going to make the marriage rocky and more than likely it won't survive.
You make it sound like you're on a desert island with one bottle of water and a wet book of matches.
Get real. It's up to you how it goes. If you can't communicate your likes and dislike and take control of your destiny then join a convent.
Communication. I am happily married, 18 years. Any time that my husband and I had any problems, it was because of lack of communications. Saying what you feel makes all the difference in the world.
You survive a car wreck or a bout with a disease.....lol. You have to be ready for marriage. It takes work on both sides. Communication is the big thing.
A wise man sees danger and hides himself, a fool rushes in.
I don't know, great question. so far I have not survived my marriage at all, I'm more like some kind of freaking ';disaster survivor';.
Be well.
You'll need a lifejacket, a swiss knife and basic survival training.
Communication, Trust, and Love
Alot and Alot of Patience...
GOD in your marrige, communication, trust, and lots of physical contact.
Large amounts of alcohol.
patience and tolerance.
communication and trust are to big factors.If you don't talk and if you don't trust than it won't last
shoot your spouse. it's the only way to survive.
adjust to it
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