How do people make marriage last forever?

How did you make a marriage last 30,40, even 50 years? What was so different from those who are only married for 5 years? Please let me know how you can make a marriage last.How do people make marriage last forever?
For a marriage to last, both people have to respect one another. Respect is becoming an endangered species these days, sadly. Both have to make a real and honest commitment to their marriage, make it a priority in their life, put their spouse above all else. They have to not only keep their own autonomy, but allow the other person theirs as well. They have to support each other, grow as people and as a couple. There has to be love, and a passion for one another, not just sexually. You also have to have a realistic view on marriage. You can't play the divorce card every time you fight and expect the other person to keep believing that you're committed to your marriage. People will have disagreements because even though you are a couple, you are still individuals as well. The trick is in how you handle a disagreement. Calling the other person stupid or threatening to leave or getting abusive...those are things that will destroy a marriage by eroding the trust and love.





Often when a marriage lasts 5 years or less, it is because the couple either wasn't really ready for marriage to begin with, or they allowed themselves to grow apart by not making their marriage a priority in their life. Not to mention not respecting each other. I see plenty of couples these days that treat each other with disrespect...talking to the person they're supposed to love most in the world as if they were less than the gum on the bottom of their shoe. They let the day to day stresses of life become overwhelming and take it out on their spouse, when really they could make things so much easier by facing problems as a team. I also think that some people think nothing of getting a divorce, so they go into marriage thinking they have an easy out if they want it, and so they go into it not giving it a real and true commitment. There's often this ';just in case'; mentality, which only serves to undermine the commitment you're supposed to be making to each other when you take those vows.How do people make marriage last forever?
On about the fifth anniversary, take your spouse to a faraway trip. Get lost and leave him/ her there. By the golden year anniversary, you go back to retrieve him/her. The emotion of being together again will guarantee a lifetime reunion.
get along





reach agreements





no cheating





best friends





argue somewhat but helps, know what issues are and can change





be helpful





do things if don't want to





not selfish
COMMUNICATION
Lots and lots of hard work.
they fake it