The key is to first know who you are and be comfortable with self. Then you need to know what things you need and desire in a relationship. You compare those things with what you see in the person you are sizing up. Nobody should enter marriage thinking that they can change their spouse.Married people: did you tell you were with the love of your life during dating or only when marriage discussed?
I didn't have much in the way of previous relationships for comparison, but I didn't really think that my fiance was ';marriage material'; in the beginning. In fact, I thought we'd never work out long-term or that we'd make a good couple and so I pushed him away a lot in the beginning (I didn't want to date at first -- just wanted to stay friends...and then, when after several years, we got together I tried to keep things casual and non-committed...) But eventually he wore down my resistance and I had to admit that I wanted to be with him forever.
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