After a 7 year marriage is a couple ready to enter into SWINGING?

Every couple reachs several levels. after 7 years of marriage . Are some couples READY to enter into swinging with other attractive couples after such a stretch of TIME ?After a 7 year marriage is a couple ready to enter into SWINGING?
As a couple, you really need to talk with other people who have gotten into it. Find out what the pitfalls are, and there are many. I have some friends who got into that and they were ill-prepared for it. I find it's enough of a challenge to be in a relationship with one other person, let alone three other people. A relationship have to be very strong and secure to survive the potential craziness of swinging. Each extra person who comes into the relationship on an intimate level brings their own insecurities, fears, personality, wants, needs, beliefs, etc. This adds complications that were not there before. There are boundaries in swinging that have to be respected and the communication has to be open and honest. If any one person in the equation doesn't abide by this, they become the weakest link and things crumble, sometimes within the marriage as well. So if you are considering this, do your homework, communicate openly with each other, make sure you want to risk the extra complications.After a 7 year marriage is a couple ready to enter into SWINGING?
Very few couples are. The duration of a marriage doesn't have anything to do with whether or not a couple should consider the swinging lifestyle. The stability and quality of the marriage are what's to be considered. If a couple married 7 years is simply finding themselves in a rut and have the expectation that swinging will pull them out then they're on the wrong track. I can't say what the magic answer is, but I definitely can say that it shouldn't be viewed as a tool to be used to ';fix'; anything or ';add spice'; to a sex life.





I have friends who have been married for 30 years and swinging for the past 15. It works for them and they have a wonderful, loving and happy marriage. That said, they are the first people to say that it's a poor choice for most couples to enter the lifestyle. They've shared many horror stories with me and I don't doubt the truth in what they've told me. Even people in stable marriages have experienced problems after swinging. My friends have told me about several people who thought they were prepared to engage in sexual activity outside their marriage and after the fact found that they weren't. Inevitably someone becomes jealous or finds it to be more than they can handle after the fact. They won't even have anything to do with a couple if they've been in the lifestyle for less than 5-10 years. They don't want the drama and, as they tell it, there's plenty.





If there is the slightest problem in your marriage you shouldn't consider it. If you and your spouse are not both 100% on board, don't consider it. If you and your spouse are not prepared to communicate at levels you've never considered, don't do it. You'll have to be willing to share every feeling about every experience to learn boundaries and not unknowingly hurt one another. It's not a lifestyle where you can just let things slide. Take a LOT of time to talk and consider whether you're really ready for this. Only you and your spouse know whether or not you're ready, or whether you should even continue to pursue the idea. Just know that it's dangerous ground to tread on and that marriages do not survive beyond 5 more years for about 75-80% of the couples who try it.





ETA - Oh, and, as a side note. Eric D pretty much hit the nail on the head. While I've chosen not to participate in the sex part of the evenings, I have been (as a single, unattached, unmarried person) to a couple of swinger parties with my friends out of curiosity. In both cases, at different clubs, about 50% of the people there were what I would classify as average. 48% were butt ugly or obese. 2% were above average. About 75% of them were 40+ years of age. They were all, however, very understanding of the fact that I did not want to engage in sexual activity. Everyone accepted ';no, thank you'; as my response without propositioning me again and continued to be friendly afterwards.
Swinging can be a lot of fun, and actually make you closer. It requires a LOT of maturity. You must go into it with the idea, that if your partner is having a pleasurable experience, you should be happy for him/her. You will find that all couples are not all that attractive. Usually one will be attractive, and the other problematic. Skills in bed will also vary, as will preferences. You will usually find your own partner is better, and more fun. Swinging can reinforce the bond that way. If either of you ever has the slightest twinge of jealousy, don't even consider it. You can meet really interesting people, and go great places and some of the sex will be really good to. Think first. Try it a little at a time. If either of you wants to quit, do so THEN.





Good luck, we had a lot of fun for several years.
You as the couple are ready to enter the swinging lifestyle whenever you both are ready. It doesn't matter if you have been married for 6 months, 7yrs or 30yrs. What matter is, that the two of you are ready for that kind of relationship. That the two of you only sees it as sex, there will be no emotion involved with the other people. Otherwise, your marriage can go wrong, if one of you starts falling for someone else.
Warning, there are very few ';attractive'; couples who swing. Sure there are average looking couples and some BAD looking couples, but attractive? mmmm





Funny, most swinging parties that I have attended, there are very few porn-star look-a-likes. (myself included.)





hell, go for it. you can raise the standards.
Can't put a set time on it, we have been married this long so we should be ready, you either are ready to or you aren't and it's something that both of you have to be willing to do, not one doing it for the other, and the trust has to be there from both sides. Those 2 things aren't dictated by time.
Nah, it will backfire in your face sooner or later. I know a couple (my friends sis %26amp; bro in law) that started swinging thinking it would add spice to their marriage, it backfired. There were new issues resulting from trust to one being hurt because the other enjoyed the swinging sessions so much. Besides, swinging opens you up to STD's.





Mary in Camden, MI
It all depends on the couple. How strong is your communication. I think clear communication, sincere understanding, and strong confidence are key.





If it is an option to try, I would make sure that you both agree that should one of you begin to become uncomfortable that you stop immediately. I would also make sure to openly discuss how each person is feeling through-out it.
all i can say is sick, sick ,sick.


The very thought of watching my husband with another makes my blood boil, i really don't now how you think 7 years is long enough to swing.


There are vows we take when we get married that means to be faith full to one another.





Why don't you spice your marriage by going away for the weekend do things each other and try different things with each other
You know, you are always asking questions about this. If it interests you, JUST GO DO IT!


Stop with the questions, and grow a pair.





Then we'll see you here in a year, after your marriage goes down the toilet like your morals did.
A few are although most aren't. It is a thing that each couple must consider seriously beforehand as the results could destroy the marriage if both aren't mature enough to handle it.
why would you want a dick of another man in you when you have your hubbys.....you want to watch you man screw another women? ALl this does is lead to divorece / cheating......SICK SICK SICK
It has nothing to do with the years you have been married but the maturity of the couples seeking swinging.
Theres no time limit on entering ';swinging'; Its up to them whether they feel its right or wrong, but i'd say you have to REALLY trust your partner.
I wasn't aware that there was a time limit for that. I think it would be whenever you are both ready and comfortable with the idea.
Your spouse is not some cheap date. If you two don't respect each others bodies and hold them sacred then who the hell will?
Well I can't see myself doing that now, but maybe after 7 years.. If things get boring.. I guess it could either make the marriage better, or worse.
';swinging'; is often the END of a marriage
NO, not even after 107 years
you have got to be kidding me. that is the WORST idea ever.
that's just nasty.
umm, don't do that!


ick.
that's up to you.
OH MY GOD...