What is he BEST way to turn down a marriage proposal without the other person getting upset?

*Jeeez why are SOME men so emotional and take matters the wrong way*What is he BEST way to turn down a marriage proposal without the other person getting upset?
You: i iz not feelin' u aight?


Him: *cry*


You: man up, u wussy!


Him: *cry more*





--Classic line: ';It's not you, it's me.';What is he BEST way to turn down a marriage proposal without the other person getting upset?
Saying No politely as soon as possible. Don't take too long to turn them down if you have already decided not to accept them. The longer you take to decide the more hope and affection they build up inside for you.





If you have done the guidance prayer and have decided not to go ahead with the proposal, you could say something using ';its not the will/qadr of Allah';.........etc
they WILL get upset as it's basically a loss..not many can handling losing well





the BEST way is to do it quickly and to the point w/o any lady-like soft voices of comfort and what not...they will take it wrong


cut it off clean and fast, like zabiha


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you ask this quite often, ya know...





peace


Allah(swt) knows best
i thnk i asked that q before =/ never got a decent way...





i say i can't get married before i finish school(which is invalid after you finish)





or i can't get married before my sister does(which is no more valid if u don't have a sis or she's already married)





looool it's painful isn't it
that sucks. my brother in law just got dumped a week ago and is also not handling that well.. =/ um.. well, honestly.. the best answer would seem to be just that ';Honesty';..but honesty hurts like a mofo.. and can make the guy even more down. ';sorry, i just dont think that we have any sort of connection'; .. ';sorry, im honestly just looking for someone that seems a little more financially stable'; i mean OUCH.. imagine someone saying that to u.. so we tend to try and find ways around it just like rana said.. er.. im just not ready yet/ im waiting to finish school..etc But thats sort of giving the guy false hope. now i know that your reason is not either of those, and i really dont have ANY idea what i could come up with in ur particular situation because im sure that not a lot of people have been there..at least not in the west. i would just try and back away slowly. its really not the poor guy's fault but at the same time its not a position that u want to put yourself in.
Just explain to him the reason you have turned him down. I mean i hope he'll understand that it's good of you to tell him the truth, rather than the relationship breaking up after a few years down the line.
theres no 'best' way of turing a proposal down


just make ducky do the job


but dont have 2 much of a high expectation before its 2 late....


anyway gd luck ninja :)
I know. Lol.





Lol..





Maybe you can just tell this fella and be up front. He needs to move on.





Don't leave it for too long, just be honest.
';I don't think we're right for each other';


';I think we could both find someone better for each other';?





I wouldn't really know seeing as i haven't had nay marriage proposals =P
Proposal procedure according to sharee’ah : http://islam-qa.com/en/ref/88130


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tell him everybody has a soul mate out there some where but i am not urs may Allah swt give u a gr8 wife that will love u 4 who u r %26amp; inshAllah she comes soon lol. idk this is all i could think of
say not ready to marry ,





In love with s/o else





in study





Career





Celibacy/ nun ship if !





let others what way they take we must consider ours !
Just be honest say I have done Istikahrah %26amp; left the matter to Allah.


If he's a believer he'll understand.
Say ';I'm not good enough for you !';
you shouldn't say jeez, because it is taken from ';Jesus.';
simple...';no';.