Is 3 years marriage enough time for a couple to get situated before they might want to try swinging with other?

Is 3 year marriage enough time for a couple to get situated. before they decide to try swinging with other couples.Is 3 years marriage enough time for a couple to get situated before they might want to try swinging with other?
MOST people we know who have gotten into it so early in their marriage found themselves in trouble with it.





That said, we know some who did succeed. Such people had various traits in common:





1. High levels of mutual trust.





2. High levels of mutual respect.





3. Very few arguments over ';misunderstandings';.





4. A high drive for sexual fun, and an already excellent sex life.





5. MUTUAL interest - not just one or the other.





The best thing a couple who is interested in getting into swinging can do is to try to meet some people who are into it and talk to them. Ask them about the pros, cons, good and bad experiences, their rules, other people's rules, etc.





Take your time. Stop whenever you feel hesitant. Neither of you should ever do anything you don't want to do - both of you must have unquestioned ';no'; power in all situations.





Above all, know when to get out. If things just aren't going well, don't just push on. Shelve it - either temporarily, or permanently.Is 3 years marriage enough time for a couple to get situated before they might want to try swinging with other?
Well were you waiting for a certain time to then investigate or try to get crazy? Swinging is somthing that you have to have security and communication with eachother locked down. If you are wanting to try this just for fantasy then think long and hard about ALL the ramifications that will follow. Now if you each feel and have been open to different behaviors prior or since your marriage then yeah, tkae the chance. If you two are open and trusting then I am sure that you could keep all the jealousy and pehaps guilt or fears from hurting you. Knowing what it is you are pursuing, SEX, not love or a continuous relationship. just SEX. We enjoy the lifestyle, but that's what it is for us. We enjoy the adventure's with one another, then sometimes it is just her and I and that is when emotions and love keep the fire lit.
It would entirely depend on your level of maturity and how well you communicate with your partner.





It is very important before going to a Swingers club or hooking up with someone online that you educate yourself about the Swinging Lifestyle and that you have a frank discussion about your expectations.





I would suggest SwingTowns as a good place to get started. They have a lot of information how-to's in written and video format to give you an idea of what to expect. Also, they have been around for a long time so many of their members are great resources. Most people are happy to answer any question in a Forum or chatroom situation that you might have.





I like the fact that you are careful in your thinking and that you wanted to be secure in your marriage before venturing out into this exciting world.





I 've had lots of fun in the last ten years. I hope your experiences are as interesting and rewarding.





Good Luck,


Sherree
you have been married for three years, don't ruin it by getting into this situation. This brings so much distrust into your relationship.
You answered your own question by asking for opinions. That is not a marriage.
only if you think 3 years is long enough to file for divorce. These things usually end up going badly.
Whatever you have three years of it is not a marriage. Don't pretend. 8~)
i would never suggest doing that, i never want to do that in my marriage
i think you need more sex all together