Sunday, May 9, 2010

Can not masturbating have any positive effects on someone who is planning on saving sex until marriage?

P.s. is there any guy out there who has actually gone from being a habitual masturbater to a non masturbater and stayed that way for over four months, if so you have more say than anyone.Can not masturbating have any positive effects on someone who is planning on saving sex until marriage?
I didn't have sex with a woman until I was with my wife.





I masturbated, and it wasn't habitual. It just took off the pressure and the stress of sexual tension, as well as the emotional rollercoaster.





Sure some times I did it for pleasure too, but I'm not ati-pleasure. I beleive that we are given many things for our pleasure, including the flavors of food, which can become habitual as well.... lots of obese people around...If I'm not mistaken that's a sin?





Nothing in istself is bad and everything comes with responsiblily attached to it.





When I became with my wife, I gave up masturbation for Making Love.





It isn't about becoming a nonmasturbator for over four months. Who would want to? That would mean going back to the emotional rollercoaster and sexual tension and pressure that show'd up b4 starting to masturbate.





I'm 24 now, married since 22, so it hasn't been that long ago for me.





It's about establishing balance and including all of the things in yur life that you love and find meaningful to you, including masturbation, instead of locking away in yur room to constant masturbation.





Things in peoples lives which become habitual or an obcession are usually the things that have guilt attached to them and they feel that they are doing something wrong, want to quit and still keep doing it!....The guilt attachment, wanting to stop, still doing it because one likes it, then getting beat up again by guilt is the formula for an adiction or an obcession.





I'm not trying to bring you back if you it hurts you that way, but how then can you deal with sex after marriage. There will be such huge mixed feels about it by then after going throught the stuggle of making the feelings and the pleasure such a bad and negative thing, and then suddenly it's good and OK?





If you are in a spiritual background, check out this site http://www.boysunderattack.com.





Masturbation is probably what made it possible for me to wait until I was with my wife, to have sex.





Hoping the best for you Dude


:- ) Me!Can not masturbating have any positive effects on someone who is planning on saving sex until marriage?
Habitual masturbaters are masturbating to hide something. This would be a good time to explore what is really behind the need to masturbate. Granted, it feels good and you like it. No problem there. I bet during your non masturbating soberness you have more confidence, are more straight with people, sleep better (you don't spend late hours in fantasy land) and have a different experience with the ladies.





What will happen is, after your marriage gets into a normal stage you will go back to jerkin' off and your marriage will go down the tubes. Now is the time to really get this dealt with. It's a good study.
first off i am a female so i can't helo you out with your 'ps' part


sorry





but as far as not masturbating and saving yourself for sex and marriage


i am not religious so i don't see a benefit to it


if you are religious maybe get some perspective from religious folk





buuut to me you would probably be spending a lot of time holding back natural pent up energy


guys have wet dreams for a reason, they don't necessarily MEAN to do it..it just happens as a physical release





so to me, that means it's natural





hope you find what you are looking for


cheerz
I have heard of people doing this that have had a sexual relationship with their fiance/fiancee prior to marriage. It's pretty cool and they are ';pent-up'; for the wedding night. So, if you want to go w/o masturbating prior to the wedding, great ! Be prepared for wet dreams/nocturnal emissions, again, as your body naturally gets rid of ';old'; semen. It's healthier for the body to do this.
Well, most men do not do this. Most masturbate even if they have a girl to have sex with. Saving it for marriage is usually a bad idea because you will not become emotionally developed and most girls (in the real world) will throw you on the street if you don't know how to please them(give them bad sex)
The only ';potentially'; positive thing I can think of is some kind of religious fulfillment, if your faith is that masturbation is bad. There are no medical gains, and I would think it could be emotionally frustrating...so overall, my opinion is ';what's the point?'; but that's a personal decision that you'll have to make, whether it's going to make you a better, happier person.
Why would you not masturbate? I think it'd actually have a negative effect because the orgasm would be such a new experience, you'd never want to do anything else but sex and your relationship would become purely physical.
Why not have her do it for you? If you don't consider masturbating real sex (which I do), then have her do it for you. That way you won't be breaking any rules, and it will be more intimate for the both of you.
Live with nature. Do meditation for about half an hour everyday so that such thoughts will be out from your mind. Sex after marriage is good or otherwise mental problems may arise.
marriage is the most crippling institution other than school %26amp; religion we have.





have sex when you are in love or feel you should





think for yourself





find your own way %26amp; answers on questions that affect YOUR LIFE
Its not possible to control it especially when you're aroused with something.. And also, it isn't normal for a straight man not to masturbate..





Hope this helped!!
Not masturbating makes waiting for sex a million times harder.
yea if you stop masterbaiting sex will be so so much better! espesually for the first time and it will make things better when your having fun with you and your girl too
Who cares, if you wanna do it do it. But don't tell the world about it!
I guess doing that will make you less cranky..
itll just make your first time with your wife.. really QUICK
that isnt normal
honestly i dont think it matters if it feels good what the hell go for it
yes wait u will save the experince 4 her its much better trust me

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