Reading some of the posts in this marriage and divorce section it is almost like some have rushed into love with marriage being apparent objective. Not a mere strategy that they will continuously work at to make it smooth, even it means using the unthinkable protocols like marriage counseling, doing activities to spice it up i.e. going on a mini vacation, treating each other to surprises, karma sutra classes etc.
So far having read the marriage and divorce section on some questions...what is your take to this?Is marriage a mere objective to SOME people instead of being a strategy with aim of using protocols to make..?
Blah, blah BLAH...
I married my husband because we are in love and want to be together, forever....coffee anyone?Is marriage a mere objective to SOME people instead of being a strategy with aim of using protocols to make..?
Marriage is neither an objective nor strategy.
Many people who come on here have not the slightest idea of what marriage really is.
Marriage is a sacred institution where two people make public their commitment to one another and deny all others.
In reading your question you sound like your opinion of marriage is nothing but a business deal you enter into with an objective.
Don麓t really understand what it is your asking nor why because you don麓t state your status.
Yes, marriage does seem to be to some people one item on their To-Do list as they go through life. What's more troubling to me though is the amount of emphasis, mainly by women, on the wedding as opposed to the actual marriage.
I agree with you that many people who get married or desire to, seem to have that as their goal and focus (being married) with no idea how to make it work or keep it working once they've said ';i do';.
Perhaps that is part of the reason why the divorce rate in the US is so high. People tend to treat relationships as something that is disposable (as many things in our society are). When it's not working well, you toss it aside and get a new one rather than trying to fix it...because that takes time and work and we haven't learned the value of those things in our fast-food, convenience driven society. We're using to wanting something and getting it NOW...not having to wait weeks or months, and put effort into obtaining it throughout that entire time.
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