Thursday, January 21, 2010

How can a western woman get an arranged marriage in India if she is not herself Indian?

After reading some of the answers I am amazed at how little people know about India. Stoned to death for looking at anyone????? hahaha. I lived in india for 18 years and never saw anyone getting stoned. People are just simply dumb and not know anything about the rest of the world.





Well, to answer your question. It would be very hard to get an arranged marriage since it does involve matching traditions, family values and culture. However, you can checkout shaadi.com and bharatmatrimony.com and try





To ppl who think arranged marriage is made in hell and why would you do it yourself crap. arranged marriages only happens with the consent of the guy, the girl and both families. Noone is forced to marry. My cousin looked at 26 women before he found the one he wanted to marry. his parents were tired of meeting the families of the girls. You don't like someone, you move onto the next one.





People should enlighten themselves. I am amazed at how little knowledge people have.How can a western woman get an arranged marriage in India if she is not herself Indian?
You can't, unfortunately, most other cultures discriminate against westerners, because some how, we have broken down the morals of their society, by just existing.





They also think westerners are, shallow, dumb, and lazy. No man's family, will ever disgrace the family by arranging a marriage with a western women.How can a western woman get an arranged marriage in India if she is not herself Indian?
First of all you must understand the meaning of arrange marriage.


Its not as simple as it sounds to you. You think its Parents/Relatives finds a spouse , fix the marriage %26amp; then finally organise the wedding.


Plus ofcourse they take care of wedding expenses.


It goes much beyond that.





First they would search spouse only from their own community/caste/sub caste /culture / financial stablity or soundness in case if they are searching groom / beauty along with how rich the girl's parents are in case they are searching of bride etc goes into consideration.





Second you hardly have any say over their choice. Unless you give them a real solid %26amp; valid reason to refuse the proposal.





Yes, its beautiful system and works also. But I dont think in your case it wont be arrange marriage but kind of semi arrange marriage even if you were to search a groom for yourself in India either through some of your Indian Friend's family or through Matrimonial Sites.





Semi arranged means , you wont have parents doing all those for you. but some Indian Family would be doing it. They would not give any importance to caste but only to Groom should match with your physical requirements , plus he should be willing to relocate to where ever you are or he should be seriously interested to get married to a westerner ( if you willing to relocate to India after wedding ) and should have financial stablity to look after you.





See, unless some friend's family finds you a real good person within their own known friend circle , Chances of you getting some Indian Man who would stay married to you for long is very slim. Most Indian Man perhaps would get married to you , have a Free Sex for sometime , moment they get bored, they would want to call it quit. As they come with fixed mind set ( thanks to Hollywood) that Western Women can get laid at the drop of the hat plus they dont take **** like many indian women perhap would.





So Think twice before you plunge. Lot would depend on the person you get.





Warn you these matrimonial sites are not very reliable with respect to credentials of listed candidates. Many of the men listed on these sites are married in real life. They just put their profile for fun sake or to have fun on the side if in case something materialises.





Pl be careful
Why on earth would you dream of a marriage made in Hell? You are aware that life in India is not like North America...right? You have no opinion, no rights, no class and no respect. You cannot do anything without your husbands permission in India. Stop looking for trouble and stay who you are and find a normal man in this country to be with!


Read the news. It is possible to be stoned to death for looking at another man and the men in India are admired to do this deed. Project your brain on something more worthwhile.
You wouldn't, because the marriages are arranged for many reasons, including family status, money, religion, etc. If you're not Indian it wouldn't work.





But you could find someone foreign who would like to move to America and marry you for the greencard. Look for online dating sites for foreigners.
i completely agree with jag... stoning people to death has also stopped in pakistan... i ask people to stop writing what they heard from people decades ago and if they wish to comment so much to please come up visit and understand the place they are commenting and then speak or stay silent.... well i have also heard that few north americans cheat over other so all north americans are cheaters absolutely no....
There are some very good Matrimonial sites and you can see the full profile of Indians there. Example shadi.com and http://www.sikhmatrimonials.com/. I am an Indian Sikh and got married through http://www.sikhmatrimonials.com/.





Also if you have some indian friends they can be the middle man and can refer some of there friend.
Probably not, families that are traditional enough to make arranged marriages usually frown upon marriages outside of their culture. Plus it would have to be between parents and usually western parents don't believe in arranged marriages.
just why would you want to enter an arranged marriage anyway?Looks like you are running away from something.
Don't think you can.
You're a western woman and you want an arranged marriage? Why would you do that to yourself?
you have to get your parents to arrange it with your future husband's parents. I think. Good luck! lol
go to shaddi.com, or bharat matrimony
what?

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