Is it true that the first year of marriage is the hardest?

This is a little light for this forum, but I'm curious about people's opinions. We're having our ups and downs and in betweens. Nothing dramatic, nothing worthy of a day-time talk show or a divorce, but he certainly seems less perfect now. (I'm sure I do too.) We knew each other for awhile before we dated and dated for awhile before we married, so I'm sort of surprised that marrying changed the perspective so much.





Anyone else have a similar experience?Is it true that the first year of marriage is the hardest?
I am kind of impressed by your question. What you are experiencing here is just day to day living. Looking back, the excitement of the wedding is over, you have your pictures and you aren't moving toward any major occurrences right now. Now is the time to make some decisions about how you both will handle life in the future. You sound like a thoughtful intelligent person. I am sure you love your husband. So it's up to you both to keep laughter, love, romance, and fun in your relationship.


Find things to do together. Picnics on the living room rug, time for just the two of you, time alone, walk along the beach, whatever gets you smiling and talking will be a boost. Don't slip into the dangerous area of thinking it should all just be perfect without effort... marriage is a bumpy road, it takes work. I am betting on you. You sound like you will make it awesome.Is it true that the first year of marriage is the hardest?
Well it is said that the first year of marriage is the hardest but if you follow the statistics the highest percentages of divorce happen in the seventh year. If you have ever heard of the term ';seven year itch'; it seems to be true. It shows that the 7th year of marriage has the highest rate of divorce usually due to the stress of jobs, money, kids, in laws, and ETC. has reached a boiling point between the couple and they start to drift a part or all out have the hate of each other. Also the 7th year is where you will find the highest rates of infidelity usually men will have the higher rate of cheating but females definitely do their share. So the first year is actually a bit easier all you are doing is learning how to live with each other the 7th year you are trying to not hate each other. Good luck!
I don't believe that the first year is the hardest. Yes, it is hard because you have so much adjusting to do, but everything that happens in your marriage will likely be a cause for more change. Please take it from me and confront things immediately in your marriage. Don't let things get bottled up and then just hope it will all work out eventually. Everyone is definitely trying very hard to be perfect while dating and then once they are married they feel like they can relax. I'm sure there are things about you that have changed as well. Just take things day by day and be open and honest with each other about everything. It is the only way to make things work.
My husband of 12 years and I fought like cats and dogs for the 1st 5 years we were married then all of sudden it just stopped, I think we grew to know each other, started listening to each other, and started caring what the other one thought and wanted out of life. Believe me marriage is constant work on each parties behalf, it can never be a one way street or it will not work. Keep talking about your problems. Believe me you both will grow to learn that there are so many qualities that you love about each other that the perfectness of each other will not matter anymore. Good luck on your marriage and keep the flame going. It will work out for you.
You two are experiencing MATURING. That is all. We all, hopefully, mature and grow in life. Married people seem to do so sooner, due to being faced with more responsibility than a carefree single person, still home with the parents.





Keep the relationship renewed and unboring, as best you can. It helps to preserve the longevity of interest in each other. Men like unpredictability at times with their mates. Not the missing dinner type of thing, but how she can fix dinner in shorts and a bra with tossed hair and still smell good and look good to him. This can sometimes cause him to demand desert on the table before the main course--if you know what I mean.





Don't worry about maturing. It is a good thing. Just make sure you two don't outgrow each other. Good luck with growing old together.
It's one of those generalizations that's not always true, but that has a lot of truth in it. In my first marriage, the first year was hard. In my second marriage, the first year was bliss. But I think it's very common for couples to go through what you're going through. I haven't thought about it in 20 years (I first got married more than 20 years ago), but don't think I ever figured out what made things change suddenly when we got married. It surprised me, too.
People say that the first year is the hardest. I am at year 3 and let me tell you. After year two things went down hill really fast.. We are considering divorce that it is so bad. For me year 3 has been the hardest. After the first year you really get to know each other and you learn what makes each other mad. I have cheated on my husband 2 with the same guy. But he is not the same person that I married. He completly changed.. I think the 2 and third year are the hardest.. Communication is the key. As my husband and I have no communication between each other and now we have lost are marriage because of it. Now our 11 month old daughter is gonna have to be swapped between homes.. Good Luck
There is a saying that the 1st year of marriage is the hardest but in my opinion marriage period is a challenge. I think it all depends on how things are approached. My husband and I didn't have that problem and for the most part we get along pretty well. I'm not going to say that we don't work the nerve sometimes but it's all in how you deal with issues at hand. Communication is the key.


Enhance the good parts and work on the areas that need some attention. Good luck..
Well. My first year was hell on earth! I didn't know how I was to make it and had nowhere to turn. He had a lot of maturing to do and I thought I was going crazy until I had several people tell him everything I had been trying to let him know from the beginning. So, from my point of view. HELL YES. It is the hardest. He seemed all sweet, loving, showed me new things all the time. Took me here and there and talked about different topics (daily) and suddenly became boring as hell. I felt like I was trapped. Cohoax into this marriage and can't get out now because of spiritual reasoning. It is better now. He at least listens to what I have to say or pretend to listen. We got married May 5 of 2007. So we are only in our 2nd year.
The first year is the hardest.


It takes time to get used to being married, you have to learn a routine. I myself, got married thinking it was all kisses and rainbows...I was a bit off. We have our good days and bad, but after 5 years I have to say the good far out weigh the bad. I wouldn't trade the memories and silly stories from our first year for nothing, they helped us grow..and give us a laugh here and there.
Marriage, like life, is about compromise. I have spen time with individuals that I really did not know all that well. However, I don't think that the things that arise necessarily do or are expected to arise in the first year of matrimonial bliss. My advice to you is to appreciate the blessings of today rather than dwell on the uncertainties of tommor.
first and foremost, i agree with those that say you're in an adjustment period. i've been with my husband for almost 21 years. there was no magic milestone (oh year number 6 was the worst). we've had some rough spots and we've had some pretty uneventful periods.


my main piece of advise is this: relax, be willing to compromise (you have to give a little to get a little), treat your partner the way you hope to be treated and beyond all of that, choose your fights wisely. Make sure the arguments you do have are worthy of the energies put into them.



1st year IS the hardest. Honestly, were still learning a lot about each other. But i think what we go through is a positive thing. It helps us learn to be more in tune to one another. I finally understand what they mean by give and take.
No. That's year 1 in the relationship. It's between years 5- 7 in the marriage.
The hardest is the first year with kids.
Yeah me too. And I've been told the same thing. I think it's just an adjustment period or something. I'm getting more mellow by the day %26amp; learning how to cope.