What are the hidden dangers that can tear a marriage apart with out realizing they are happening?

Playing dumb games like well if they don't remember to do this, I'll forget to do that. Or he hasn't told me I'm pretty in forever, so I'm not going to let him enjoy the football game, as opposed to thinking he hasn't told me I'm pretty in forever so I'm going to dress up really nice and try to get his attention. In other words waiting for the other person to do something nice first.





Sorry...I just realize I was making it like it was always the womans fault, it isn't guys need to remember to be nice to their wives and just do random acts of love and kindness for them as well.What are the hidden dangers that can tear a marriage apart with out realizing they are happening?
The main thing is apathy. Things are just OK. Because things aren't ';bad'; you don't feel like you need counseling or anything, so you let things go. All the while, you are slowly drifting apart, settling into a routine that is completely unfulfilling. One day, you wake up and start to realize you are miserable and resent your husband/wife when they aren't immediately able to recognize and deal with a marriage crisis they didn't see coming. Or, because you are bored and aren't really working on your marriage, you are easily tempted when someone charming and interesting makes advances. The comparison of this new, exciting relationship and your boring, stale marriage is not a favorable one.What are the hidden dangers that can tear a marriage apart with out realizing they are happening?
Thinking that just because you are married that you %26amp; your spouses ability to become ';attracted'; to a member of the opposite sex ';shuts off';. Human biology doesn't really care about ';marriage';. So as one person already said (even though they got a thumbs down), stay away from forming friendships with a member of the opposite sex.
People get comfortable with one another and stop doing simple things like talking about their day to one another, having passion and fun in the bedroom, make time for one another


People also take their partners for granted and do not show Application or say thank you, and treat them as a friend or acquaintance instead of their wife or husband


Couples often loose their spark for one another, things should never get old or stop just because time passes
each having seperate opposite sex friends. I'm sorry but it NEVER works...you think you can fool yourself and you think it won't happen to you. but are you willing to take THAT risk for your spouse?? you should love him/her so much you wouldn't breathe air IF you knew there might be a chance it would cause probs in the marraige. marraige is hard work and sacrifice....yet women don't want to give up their male friends and men dont want to give up their female friends. I just dont get it.
Becoming close friends with the opposite sex, it may be innocent in the beginning, but sooner or later one person wants it to go to the next level. Never take each other for granted and get too comfortable, that's when the problems start, believe me I'm living it right now.
So, okay here are 3:


1, Lack of communication.


2. Putting your own needs above the other person's needs.


3. Addiction (that is actually the worst one - and you would think it would not be ';hidden';, but that's how it gets you...)


GL
secrets, betrail, having things happening right in front of your nose and not wanting to see them for what they really are out of fear you will be facing the big D.


cheers


mystic
Becoming complacent and taking each other for granted.


You need to consistently spend time together, doing things you both enjoy, and TALK to each other, every single day.
White Lies nails that concern on the head.





Total openness %26amp; honesty is necessary but that can't happen without loving initmacy and eradication of your 'Ideal Husband'/'Ideal Wife' fantasies.
having kids -- that's what cranks things up a notch. Everything else is pretty easy in comparison to jointly raising kids
yes you can
Not making the other person feel needed. Every human wants to feel needed/wanted
spending a lot of time doing your thing
Drugs....cheating.....blind sided with unknown child support,and the list go on !!