What are the benefits of saving sex for marriage?

I'm 15 and would like to be convinced.What are the benefits of saving sex for marriage?
Not having to worry about busted condoms, possible pregnancy, STD's and not to mention sex complicates everything. When you're ready to accept the emotional, physical and life changing consequences... go for it. I'm not waiting until I'm married... but I am waiting until I'm engaged.What are the benefits of saving sex for marriage?
You'll win a prize - a BIG surprise!
it probably would be alot more special, if you have had many partners in the past, your new spouse just becomes another notch on the bed post.





but hey. do what you want


i know i like to test drive my cars before i buy, wouldn't you?
None.





People say there's a special sacred sanctity to saving one's self, not true. In fact, it creates more problems.





With that said, that doesn't excuse people from sleeping all over town and behaving irresponsibly.





If you find a person you really care for and visa versa, it's a good thing.
Don't worry about the benefits before marriage,





you should worry about the consequences of sex at 15.








2 thumbs down! Wow! I guess this is from two of the 15 yr olds that looked at this question. If its from an adult, you are a sad excuse for a grown up. By thumbs-downing me, you are condoning sex at 15. What if this were your daughter asking this question?
there are none. have fun and experiment safely with ur partner/s.


sex isn't wrong outside of marriage and there's nothing wrong with being in a relationship and doin it :)
After you have got a profession.
This is just my thoughts on the subject so take it for what it is worth. Whey you have sex there is a spiritual connection as well as a physical connection. When you have multiple partners that bond becomes very weak and you will spend the rest of your life looking for a bond that compares with the first one. It wont happend. Furthermore, there is ALWAYS a chance that you will become a parent. Would that really be fair to you, your partner, or the children. Can you privide for them, can you privide emotionally for them? If not, then you are not ready. Furthermore, if you decide to give the kids up, it affects your family, you partners family, and everyone who knows. Especially the children. They will always wonder.


There is tremendous preassure to go out and have sex, but the rewards of not are great. I did wait, and so did my wife. Good luck to ya!
Really you should only do it if your religion tells you not to. I think that you should save sex until you have found someone really really special who you are convinced you will marry, then I feel strongly enough for them that I am willing to make love to them. Otherwise there is really no substance to the act, it just becomes more of an object.





Sex is alright as long as you don't let your sexual instincts control you.
i'm 17, i'll be 18 in two months and i'm waiting until marriage. it will be so much more sacred that way. i mean think about your wedding night... you will be so happy to give your husband this gift that only he will have. personally i would die of shame if i had to tell my husband that another man touched me like that before.
I guess you havent seen the latest study on girls 14-19 years of age. ONE in four has acquired an STD. Think about it.


That would mean that of you and 3 of your friends, one of you may already have an STD. That would convince me to save my body for ME, %26amp; one who actually mite care, down the road.
You get a $10,000 check from the government if you wait until you are married.





JUST KIDDING!!! Actually, I don't know of any...as long as you are over 18 when you have sex, its not that big a deal. At least if you have a ';test drive';, you won't have ';buyer's remorse'; and trade yours in for a new one!
able to take care of your child not paying child support, no infections.
There is a time for everything.





If you cut an apple when it's green, chances are it won't taste as good as if you had waited and let it mature...right?





Sex is about being happy and feeling comfortable with the person you are with. And unfortunately, many kids nowadays think it's OK to go around and experiment before they are really ready- emotionally and mentally- to deal with the price it entails.





So I guess I'd say waiting is best. Other people have already mentioned possible consequences...so why play with fire? Those who play with fire get burned...sooner or later!
The biggest reason for me is because when you find that guy that is right for you, you want it to be special for him when you get married.





If you think that you have found that guy, it is important to wait until you are married because most times when you start being sexual with your boyfriend, it will turn into a sex only relationship. Personally, I want my husband to be my best friend, not just my sexual partner. By not having sex, you can develop this kind of a relationship more easily.





I say this from experience, my relationships have always been better when sex isn't involved. I know you may hear this over and over again. I did. But some of the stuff that people say is true. It just takes trial and error for you to figure it out yourself sometimes.
Its like having a weapon on you , The moment you use it you will fell like using the weapon every where and all over.All the guy will know and would like to use your body all of a sudden you will realise that you are no more a holy temple but a public toilet.The holy temple is for the rightful partner who will visit and bring in love with passion to reality with an of spring . I know it is not easy to keep yourself holy but at the same time you would not like your body to be a public either. I bet you any money The boy friend you have in mind is not the one you will marry.its like this , Have you ever watched female tennis,Men like to watch the legs and a little pantie they see they are happy about it and all eyes at the pantie all through the game 1 or 2 hrs. On the other hand if men sees a nude female they will see for 1 or 2 minute and get fed up.The excitement is lose. So once you give yourself its all over.
No STD';s ??
There are NONE.





No matter what your parents might tell you, no matter what your church teaches.... there really is NO benefit.... there ARE plenty of pitfalls of saving sex until marriage.





The main one is: You find out AFTER the vows that you and your spouse are sexually incompatible. Maybe emotionally, maybe in level of desire / frequency, HECK maybe even physically (size / shape /etc... - yes it can happen)..... Now what the heck do you do?





I am not (and do NOT) advocate for having a promiscuious lifestyle.





However - if you are in a long term, committed relationship and are seriously considering marriage (which I doubt you meet these criteria at age 15) - then you OWN it to yourself, your potential spouse, and the wellbeing of your marriage to ';try it out'; so to speak.





I'll never understand WHY all religious and social teachings encourage people to discuss and hash out ALL other aspects of a relationship prior to getting married. It makes sense to truely KNOW the person and have agreement / resolution to many of life's BIG items before getting married - it increases your chances of success.





But - with sex - your just supposed to leave it up to fate? No thanks, not me, not my wife either. Besides - it rids both partners of the ';I wonder if its THAT different with someone else?'; syndrome that many wedding virgins will go through after a few years.





Sex with the same person FOREVER is a cool thing...... as long as you make sure you have a compatable partner !!! Otherwise - FOREVER is a long, long time.





Best of luck to you....
Ask your DAD!
No STDs are chance of unmarried pregnancies. But aside from that, there are emotional reasons. We're a society that puts a lot of weight on sex. Sex is powerful. When you have sex, you're vulnerable. Some people are just more comfortable waiting until their in a committed relationship to open themselves up to that volume of emotional complication. Of course, for some people, sex isn't viewed complicated. And other people still (myself included) don't think sex is complicated and important at first, then change their minds later.
sorry...I can't think of any.
not onli do you not risk getting STDs or pregnant, you are showing how much you love ur husband/wife by giving them the best present every and making your wedding night as special as it can be. Plus it messes with your emotions and if you do it before u will probably burn in hell.
I'm married have been for a few years, we have a daughter that's five, and still have a great sex life. Neither one of us waited for marriage, in fact both had multiple sex partners in the past. I say, test drive the car before you buy it. Just be careful and safe. The only reasons I can think of to wait until you are married is religion. If your religion tells you to wait and that's what you believe, then you should follow that faith. Just try not to do things you'll regret later, and wait until you're mature enough to handle the consequences sex could possibly bring.
The way I look at it the sex is special and that enhances the marriage for it takes the relationship and 'ups' the intimancy aspect.....if you're already having sex then where is the specialness in the change in the relationship......saying that there are now legal 'perks' aren't really enough...there should be an emotional and physical involvement in the change from single to married....from single to couple...from single to husband and wife.
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But I think that it is really up to you. I don't think you should do it right now but I would wait until you are older for sure. There is no rush so think about it long and hard before you do do it.








Everyone has their own reason for waiting. Here are some of the most prominent benefits. Basically, you do it for yourself and for your own reasons. If you don't know why you're abstaining you need to rethink things and make sure you're doing it for yourself and not just because it was something you were brought up with.


鈥?quot;Instant Intimate Recall:'; This refers to the mind's natural tendency to recall information from the past when triggered by a reference or memory in the present. Basically, you can be making out with Steve and call out Mike's name. When you have sex with someone you see them in their most basic element and they see you in yours. There is nothing keeping you from inadvertently flashing back to memories of being with these people - even at the most inopportune times (eg: at dinner with family, cuddling with a new boyfriend/girlfriend).





鈥ttachment: There is an emotional attachment created with each person you have sex with, something intended to create a serious bond (that is why it is what ';consummates'; or makes real, a marriage). The more people you have sex with and in turn create an emotional bond with, the easier it gets to break this bond. The person that has sex with 15 people probably isn't as likely to create the same bond with each of them that the person who has sex with only one other person can, you get it?





Our 11th grade religion teacher gave this visual example. She brought 8 people up to the front of the class and gave each of them a piece of clear packaging tape. The people on the ends turned to one another and put their piece of tape on the arm of the person next to them, and then removed the tape. As expected, the tape was very difficult to come off and caused a significant amount of pain - it also took with it some hair and skin follicles. These people then turned to the person to their other side and put the tape on their arm. This time, while it still caused some pain and gave some resistance to coming off, it was easier to remove and took less with it. They then turned to the person next to them and continued down the row, each time finding that their tape stuck less and less and that it caused less pain and took less with it. Eventually by the time they had stuck their tape on everyone in the row's arm, the tape would barely stick at all and caused no pain.





The idea is that this is what happens during sex - the more people you have sex with, the weaker the bond tends to become. It's not a matter of loving one person less than another, but you are less likely to create as strong an attachment if you are more familiar with the act. Also, it can be very difficult to get over a relationship in which you and the other person had sex. This doesn't mean IN ANY WAY that sex is bad or evil, this is just what happens and we don't feel like dealing with it.





鈥ou're going to have it anyway: Just because you're saving sex for marriage doesn't mean you are never going to have it, it just means you aren't going to be having it now. It's like waiting until after dinner to have your desert or something (haha, stupid analogy but think about it). It's going to be sex either way, before or after marriage, so what's the hurt in waiting and having it be even more special?





鈥elf respect: While this may seem very cliche, it is a completely valid reason to wait until marriage. Why should just anyone be able to have sex with you? It's a selfish way to look at it but it's true - does every person you go out with deserve you? We're not implying that you would have sex with every person you date, but how do you know when one relationship will end and one will be forever? The whole thing is that sex isn't wrong - it really makes us angry when people are like ';sex isn't bad, you know.'; Yes, we do know. We think it's so not wrong that is just deserves a lot more respect, that's all. It's supposed to be a wonderful, incredible thing between two people who love each other. But saving it for someone special is valuing what you are giving the other person, and in turn, yourself.





鈥TDs (Sexually Transmitted Diseases): This is a big one, please check out our STD site for a thorough explanation.





鈥otential regrets are just not worth it: Think of something you have done in the past and regretted doing later (like tell a lie or fight with a friend or whatever) and how horrible that felt. When you have made a mistake or done something you were not proud of, even ashamed of, the repercussions can be terrible. Hitting yourself over the head for doing something, thinking what would have happened if you had done something just a little bit differently, said something differently, all of those feelings can only be multiplied when put in context with sex. What if you break up with him/her afterwards and you realize that they used you or that they are with someone else or that it made the break up even harder? No matter how fond or sudden the breakup is there is always room for regret and uncertainty. Why risk all that guilt when it can just as easily be avoided? Especially because it's so easy to get caught up in the moment and not be able to think of reasons not to do it. :-P Just be smart!





鈥t takes the pressure off: It's one less thing to think about in a relationship. Is she/he with me because I'm putting out? Is she/he using me for my body? Would she/he still be with me if we weren't having sex? It forces the relationship to be about the two people involved and their individual personalities. While you may not think it's true, NOT having sex puts an entirely different spin on the relationship because a couple needs to find different ways to connect with one another.





鈥akes it easier to find someone right for you: Waiting to have sex until you're ready helps in the ';selection process.'; Because sex tends to be such a big part of relationships in today's society, right off the bat the person you are with needs to be aware of your views and feelings. This automatically creates a bond between you and your girl/boy friend because they need to understand, or at least be aware of, your opinion on sex.





鈥ren't you worth wating for?: If you are not sure about having sex, don't let your self be pressured into it. If the person you are with loves you that much then they honestly will respect your decision, and if they don't, it's only easier for you because you know they aren't the right person for you.





鈥o worry about getting pregnant: For females not only do you not have to worry about getting pregnant - will you keep the baby or give it up for adoption? Will you have to drop out of school? Will the father stay around and support you? Can you afford it? - but you also do not have to worry about contraceptives and the side effects. Males don't have to worry about supporting a child either, or having to get another job or drop out of school to work to get extra income. There isn't the threat of having to turn from a teenager to an adult over night and to have to go from being with your friends and hanging out to being with a baby and changing diapers.





鈥espect for your future spouse: Along with a respect for yourself there is also a respect for your future spouse. Having sex is putting yourself in the most intimate position possible with another human being. For some people, even the thought of their boyfriend/girlfriend having gone out with someone else is a hard thought, but knowing that they have shared this incredible experience with another person, having seen someone else in as intimate a situation as sex, can be so devastating. Knowing that someone else was there before you, or that you were in that position with someone else before your spouse, takes away from the ';gift'; you are giving them when you get married. Saving sex tells them that you had the will power and the desire to wait for them, that they were that important you saved yourself for them - you ';loved them before you even knew them.'; So that's cool, too.
You think your partner is the greatest because you have not known any other. In having sex before marriage, you find a person you like but then have sex and they suck compaired to yourlast, you decide you cant live with them forever cause the sex sucked even though you very well may be in live with them. The sex will cloud your judgment on determining if you will be the one for him/her.


Saving it bases a relationship for love not lust and remember sex is an extra, like a chunk of chocolate sometimes. YOu can be with someone with out ever having sex and still love and respect with all your heart.


Saving sex is a Great part of a relationship. It comes with so many emotions. You want to be able to really express them. If it is with a person you dont love or feel comfortable with, you cant. Why let sex cloud you judgment on REAL love. Sex is the least important part of a relationship. It is very important to be able to share that but if you never do it because of medical reasons or such, your relationship will prosper still. I would still love my hubby and stay forever if his dick got cut off today. And you only want to think of your hubby or wife when doing it. if youve had previous 'better', you may think of it sometimes. thats wrong. There is reason in that God said we she wait, i believe that is it. Who we choose to be inside our boies is a BIG choice. Only do it once!
so that if you get pregnant, you will know who the father is and also you will save yourself for prince charming.
because you want your 1st time to be special, and with the right person who cares if ';everyone is doing it'; if you dont it doesnt make you any less than a man, just be patient. and no stds =]
I can't see any.
Only married women will come on here and tell you that you will practically burn in Hell if you don't wait............yet based on all the questions here, all of their husbands whack off to porn because they have either let themselves go or they stopped putting out about a week after the wedding.