I guess I really can't give you what I know to be an accurate answer to your question. I don't know if the desire for sex encourages young marriages. I do know that if it does, the couple do not have the attitude toward one another that God has told us we need to have. Sex is no reason to get married. Even having children is no reason to get married. Marriage is all about committment and sharing, respect and consideration, working together towards a common goal. Sex is not and should never be the reason someone gets married.
Statistically, people who marry young do have a greater incidence of divorce...but it is about equal to those that live together and have sex and then marry...so I don't think there is a big correlation.Does waiting to have sex after marriage encourage young people to marry at a young age?
I guess most people who abstian from sex until marriage are highly religious. Therefore they posess morals and a relationship with God strong enough to have decisions made through Him and by Him. Many people in my church have gotten married around 20 and have been together for many years.
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There's a high correlation between divorce and marrying young. Your first question feels like a stab in the dark. I'd be surprised if there's any evidence, and I'm not sure how you'd collect it.
I'm trying to imagine the circumstances in which a couple would bring their marriage forward, in order to start having sex, as opposed to abstaining because they think sex before marriage is wrong in God's eyes, and waiting until the big day. It might happen if they were content with a very low-key ceremony, with just a few good friends present; in my experience, most couples want to make a splash on their wedding day and are prepared to wait a long time to get all the arrangements in place. What they are not prepared to wait for is sex, and increasingly they don't see why they should have to. Nor do I.
Divorce seems to be very largely a function of social mobility: thus it's very low in India, still a predominantly rural society where access to transport is limited, and very high in America where children are allowed to drive cars. I remain to be convinced that pre-marital sex - with which I don't have a problem - or even pre-marital promiscuity - with which I do - has any significant bearing on the probability of divorce. I know couples who slept together before marriage and are still together, and others who didn't, and aren't.
Well, the peak ages for divorcing seem to be at 30 and 40, no matter when they got married. Since this coincides with a 7-11 year itches that tend to be higher for divorces mostly for people who were married early, it might be more of a correlation than a causation. Ie, other things also happen to increase their chances of divorce. For instance, youth, 7-11 year itch, financial problems, midlife crisis, all culminating to really favor a divorce for a young marriage. (Young marriages are more likely to have poverty and mid-life crisis.)
Now, honestly, I was a virgin when I got married at 26, so obviously waiting to have sex after marriage did not encourage me to marry at a young age. However, I know that it does tend to encourage young marriages for most people.
Things to consider also is what age do you consider young? I consider it young anyone under 21. A lot of people I know put the age at 24. My mom puts it at anyone under 20 (ie, still a teen.) So that's a question too...
Just thoughts. Brainstorming. I do think that young adults marrying and teens marrying are at a greater risk for divorce, but that it has more to do with other things increasing their risks for divorce than it does with just their age.
Yes, the Bible teaches that we should get married when we are young.
';Cling fast to the wife of your youth.';
In other words, if you are young and find a girl and the two of you are marriageable, you should do it quickly without a lot of hesitation.
Alas, we do not stay young forever. I am middle aged now and finding a suitable partner is much more complex and even difficult.
I was going to say before I opened your post that easy divorce is the culprit there. Tom Brokaw (The Greatest Generation) said that overwhelmingly when the subjects of his book were asked what was the single greatest change they had witnessed in their lifetime, they said 'Divorce'.
When I was young having, creepy christians coming around and pestering me about my teenage sex life would have made no difference, frank sex education however did the trick. Wearing a condom virtually eliminates the risk of pregnancy
im not sure about the percentage divorcing at a young age.. but yes no sex until will push you to get married.. if you are doing it for religion let me just tell you divorce occurs at the same rate between religious and nonreligious people..
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because if they wanted sex that bad theyd be smart enough to just have sex insted of getting married and then having sex (and getting a divorce 2months later)
Yes, and it also encourage them to have unplanned sex, with no birth control or protection.
Studies have shown that divorce rate is declining as people wait longer to marry. http://women.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_鈥?/a>
yup and then having about 15 kids. Anybody watch that tv show about the Duggars? Damn somebody should have told him to keep his pants on!
It is certainly one factor. Early marriages are much more likely to end in divorce.
Using logic, that would be true.
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