You both have to want it. If there's an unconditional love to begin with - you might have a shot!How do you get back a broken marriage?
Although I usually don't advocate anything religious I thought I would suggest to you the ';Love Dare';.
It has some good ways you can maybe get your marriage back on track by basically relearning how to love and appreciate your spouse again.
If you are a religious person then all the better, if not just skip the scripture stuff and look at it from a ';common sense approach to marriage';
Edit: Fireproof is the movie that launched the ';Love Dare';
Well there are various factors to take into account before you make an attempt to reconcile a marriage. First you have to ask you heart if you can handle opening up to the same person who's already caused you so much damage and heartache.
Secondly, working to get back what you've had is very hard and a lot of times unsuccessful on the basis of constant changes circumstances that may have shaped your marriage in the begging but may not be there when you go to try again. But search for answers before you do anything else.
Third you have to ask if the other party wants to even continue the marriage on the basis of what's the point in saving something when only one party of the two wants to be there. So you've gotta talk this out with him and if he decides no you keep it moving, if he says yes make a list of things you think would help and have him do the same and the ones you agree on..you impliment
if ur labeling it as broken u kant fix something broken its like leaving a mark of a nail on a plastic table covering. as much as u try to fix it it wont change its structure after the mark. unless all else fails from counseling to group therapy, do not go and try 2 have kids to try 2 move him or her to stay. its better to let go sometimes depending on the situation u realli dont give too much info 2 go by so its general
My and my husband had a lot of issues our first year of marriage we started going to church together and being more open about our feelings. Also a lot of insurance companies pay for counseling so check your policy out and see if that is an option. Or if your community center has a support group you two can attend.
Was there cheating? Maybe you can work thru it.
Was there abuse? Leave immediately. Let it stay broken.
Was there child abuse? Leave immediately. Let it stay broken and get help for you child.
Everything else takes time, patience, love and understanding.
When you figure out the million dollar question let me know. Mines been broken for years and I'm to stupid to put the last nail in the coffin hoping for some dumb reason it can be brought back to life.
I know I'm dumb. Listen to all your other answers here. Most of the people will tell you to forget it. That's what they told me.
Hopeless romantic I guess that's what I am
The real question is why would you? After realizing the mistake you made, celebrate every day your freedom from the chains of marriage.
I don't know. The question should be ';Why do you want to get back a broken marriage?'; Try to move on. There are other fish in the sea.
Watch why did i get married by tyler perry... and if you believe in God ask Him what to do and guide you...
ya don't
too much water under the bridge, baby...
watch the movie fireproof! it will tell you how
With your hat in hand and one step at a time...
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