trust does come again, but it takes awhile. just make sure before u go into the next relationship that u have dealt with the pain first. trusting god is the first step.Is it possible to love again after marriage?
When two people marry, they become one. When the marriage is broken by divorce, it is just as if part of their bodies were torn off, kind of like loosing a hand or a finger.
The result is that there will always be feelings that will come back to haunt the person as long as they live. This is why marriage is, ';till death do we part';.
Most people can find love after divorce, but it will never be like the first love was.
In order for a second marriage to be successful, the problems that caused the first marriage to fail must be dealt with and corrected.
Marriage counseling by a very competent Christian counselor before the second marriage is entered into will help with all of this and give the second marriage a fighting chance.
If you would like more information, my e mail is listed on my profile and it is open.
Greybeard
bec; this is definately not corny. and also, its not only u who said u'd spend ur life with him, he also said it to u.
i won't lie to you, its hard to trust again. a divorce, weather its necessary or not is still a death of what was, what u believed, what u worked towards, what u believed was good and right. after a respectable grieving time we just try picking ourselves up and slowly, emphysis on slowly...slowly start trying to move forward again. u have learned a lot of valuable lessons in what happened, put those lessons to good use when looking at a new prespective partner. number one, first and foremost...don't compromise yourself. don't jump into a new relationship without a grieving process. if u find someone who is ';almost'; whom u want, don't change yourself to make the ';fit';..if u do u'll end up regretting it in the end...again.
remember what u learned as a child, trust is earned, not given. use ur womans intuition and if something seems wrong, or going way too fast or whatever, take heed and a quiet step back to re-gather your wits and return to security.
last but not least, and i say this hoping to not offend and if i do i'm sorry...but while sex is nice, its not needed by either party on the first date. get to know the new person u will find first to make sure he is the one that fits your criteria, not someone elses...then after u 2 are comfortable enuf then u can start thinking about it...take it all slow.
good luck and GOD bless.
Love, trust, an infatuation, loyalty or safety with another man. I don't know what you'd call it.
After twelve years of being married I was told she ';Cares'; about me but, don't think she loves me.
I found out she was having an affair with her boss, who was married. She then found out she was P.G. but insist it was mine, I can see that know. She now claims to love me but, has no where else to turn, all the kids don't know about her past, they would crucify her.
She needs me rather then wants me. I'm taking advantage of this, we're both over the hill and the Sun is getting lower in the sky for us.
I decided to leave it alone and use it to my advantage because if I do something about it, we're just to old to start over.
I'm going through the same situation right now...to sum it up I would say that you should wait until you know for sure that your over the ex before getting into another serious relationship. Then you will be free to love again without resentment. This is what I'm thinking. Hopefully it works ! When your ready to date, just take it slow, I'm sure love will find it's way.
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