What should a Muslim man in an arranged marriage do if his wife consistently fails to show love and affection but keeps claiming that she loves him?What should Muslim man in arranged marriage do?
Be patient with her. Hold her hand. Smile at her. Be gentle with her.
Be a man, not a beast.What should Muslim man in arranged marriage do?
It鈥檚 not necessary to divorce her. Women tend be diffident, naive and delicate. If she is feeling uncomfortable around her husband, I urge the husband to be patient and bond more with her psychologically. The husband should respect her decision to be inhibited.
Arranged marriages tend to be discomfited and awkward. Trust and faith is the key to a successful marriage. I think the husband should take his wife out to dinner, introduce her to his relatives, and take part in outdoor activities with her. I am sure the wife will gradually become more comfortable around her husband and will feel attracted towards him.
Ok I had an arranged marriage and loves come with time, trust me Im so happy I love my husband so much. I feel like I won the lottery. He is good looking has everything and u know Im like so excited when he even comes home.
arranged marriage is the best thing to do and it has a really low divorce rate.
and this is coming from a girl who was born and raised in america and my family is very modern.
its the best thing I have ever done and I just know that it comes with time.
MY ADVICE:
i think you should confront her and ask her (i know in the question you wrote ';... but keeps claiming that she loves him';), question her; in an appreciating manner.
and secondly, how long have you been in the relationship; if newly wedded couple, then perhaps the girl feels insecure right now. this should settle as time goes by.
if been husband and wife for long time; then you should ask her; this will make her feel bad and insecure but when she thinks about it then she WILL open up.
you see, some women prefer physical/sexual relationship whereas some dont.
AND SHE PROBABLY DOES LOVE YOU. SOME WOMEN JUST DONT LIKE SHOWING IT.
Hello,
Divorce, be a man about it, cut the umbilical cord from Mom and Dad and get on with life making his own way and living don't you think?
I appreciate old traditions and customs but as old Bob Dylan used to sing, ';The times thy are changing! ';
Cheers,
Michael Kelly
Don't be in an arranged marriage. I am chose who I fell in love with despite my parents knowing but they will know soon. And I'm staying with him!
They should be patiant and don't mention it. Anybody can love anybody but they are probably nervous of the whole marrige idea at their age.
Take it as a challenge and find ways into her heart.
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
How to keep cool in a marriage?
If you are prone to exploding in a violent way at your pregnant wife, how do you keep cool ?How to keep cool in a marriage?
take a deep breathe and go for a walk or go clean something or hop in the shower and cool off anything but screeming at How to keep cool in a marriage?
Start by realizing you have a problem and it is not your wife. And then go get some anger control therapy, seriously, or your soon to be born child (if it makes it that far) will also be the blunt of your anger. Won't that be a fatherly example. This is not something you can ';fix'; on your own. Huge opportunity to create the kind of guy you really are, except the anger is a stumbling block. I doubt if you are bosting to your buddies about what great anger you have. In fact, share this with your friends your concern. Get to work!
You need to figure out why you are getting so upset. Are you irritated at her for some reason? Is she saying things that are upsetting to you? Look for the source of the problem. Once you think you know what it is, try talking to her about it. She may not even be aware that something bothers you. You certainly do not want to get violent and do something you will totally regret.
Change yourself. You have the power. Your violent outbursts are just your own insecurities and fears coming out. You like to take our your issues on others. It has nothing to do with her or what you think she did. It is all you man.
Try reading ';A New Earth'; or ';The Power of Now'; by Eckart Tolle
I'm not prone to exploding in a violent way at my wife or anyone else (pregnant or not). At the most I might flip off some jackass in traffic. How you keep your anger in check in general? I don't know, see a therapist (anger management).
go to bar and have drinks and dont come back til tomorrow LOL keep your cool work out at the gym and take yoga will help relax your mind body and soul...and then compare her to when she was a bridezilla and pregzilla and laugh about it and keep trucking
The best thing would be to try and not let things, conversation, or situations get to that point. If you do, I would leave the room or house and go for a walk. When you return kindly say you are sorry and are trying to work on your anger issues.
My best advice is to just simply walk away. When you feel the initial symptoms of your anger go find another way to channel your anger. Maybe leave and go to the store or go shoot some ball, go work out. It takes two to argue. Good luck!
call a friend and go out for a beer. just leave for a while and cool off. Her hormones are making her act out. She really can't help it.
You keep by not listening to her when she is getting on your nerves! Don't pay attention to her negativity!
take a deep breathe and go for a walk or go clean something or hop in the shower and cool off anything but screeming at How to keep cool in a marriage?
Start by realizing you have a problem and it is not your wife. And then go get some anger control therapy, seriously, or your soon to be born child (if it makes it that far) will also be the blunt of your anger. Won't that be a fatherly example. This is not something you can ';fix'; on your own. Huge opportunity to create the kind of guy you really are, except the anger is a stumbling block. I doubt if you are bosting to your buddies about what great anger you have. In fact, share this with your friends your concern. Get to work!
You need to figure out why you are getting so upset. Are you irritated at her for some reason? Is she saying things that are upsetting to you? Look for the source of the problem. Once you think you know what it is, try talking to her about it. She may not even be aware that something bothers you. You certainly do not want to get violent and do something you will totally regret.
Change yourself. You have the power. Your violent outbursts are just your own insecurities and fears coming out. You like to take our your issues on others. It has nothing to do with her or what you think she did. It is all you man.
Try reading ';A New Earth'; or ';The Power of Now'; by Eckart Tolle
I'm not prone to exploding in a violent way at my wife or anyone else (pregnant or not). At the most I might flip off some jackass in traffic. How you keep your anger in check in general? I don't know, see a therapist (anger management).
go to bar and have drinks and dont come back til tomorrow LOL keep your cool work out at the gym and take yoga will help relax your mind body and soul...and then compare her to when she was a bridezilla and pregzilla and laugh about it and keep trucking
The best thing would be to try and not let things, conversation, or situations get to that point. If you do, I would leave the room or house and go for a walk. When you return kindly say you are sorry and are trying to work on your anger issues.
My best advice is to just simply walk away. When you feel the initial symptoms of your anger go find another way to channel your anger. Maybe leave and go to the store or go shoot some ball, go work out. It takes two to argue. Good luck!
call a friend and go out for a beer. just leave for a while and cool off. Her hormones are making her act out. She really can't help it.
You keep by not listening to her when she is getting on your nerves! Don't pay attention to her negativity!
How do U know that a marriage is over?
Me and my husband have been married for less than 2 years. He has not been communicating/seeing me for the past 17 days. I have been suffering his verbal abuse. My emotions have been going through roller-coasters. But I still love him. What hurts me is I don't feel loved or wanted.How do U know that a marriage is over?
Give him what he wants.How do U know that a marriage is over?
It certainly reads like it's over. For 17 days you haven't communicated with the guy at all. He's given you verbal abuse for a couple of years, yet you say with him, hmmm, very strange. I think you should end the marriage, before he does. Let's face it, it isn't working. You guys should be screwing like horny rabbits - you've only been married a short time the ';fire'; should be still burning. If you'd been married for four or five years - the fire would be out and you both would be Mr %26amp; Mrs. Humdrum. Get out of this marriage and do it before he tells you he wants out, which seems to be coming to a theater near you soon. Find someone new - and stop with the ';I still love him';, BS. No one should have to put up with the verbal abuse you've been getting.
Hi Sad Blue Pooh,
You do not deserve to be verbally abused, and you must respect yourself enough not to put up with it.
It is tough I know when a marriage is over, but if he will not communicate, better for you boh to move on now.
I see many people sticking together for the wrong reasons or a fear of being alone, but it does not bring long term happiness.
You can klearn from this and start again so value yourself and do not tolerate the abuse.
Kind regards,
Jon
I personally think that your husband is going through a rough time. Maybe he might have lost his job, thinking that he might loose his job. Put yourself in his shoes, and think why is he like that? Did I do anything that put him off, Or am I clinging too much on him? How can I come out of this situation or correct this situation.
You yourself know the answer to this situation, think, think before you do something.
Think of your future. If your love for your husband is strong, it will surely weather over all troubles.
Talk with him. Calmly, composed, just sit and talk with him. Tell him about your fears, anxieties.
Don't get angry, dont shout or scream or yell.
talk with him all willbe good.
If there is a will then surely there is a way.
god bless
You both need marriage counseling. If he is willing to try then there is hope if not the 50/50 in your relationship is very unbalanced. Based on the little information I have to go on, you sound depressed about it and I hope that you will be happy soon, with or with out your present husband.
Contact your husband some way and ask him what is wrong with him and why is he avoiding you. Depending on his answer you may find that he does not love or want you anymore. If that is the case then get out of this marriage as quick as you can.***SWEET MILDRED SENT ME HERE TO FIND DESPERATE WIVES FOR THE PLAYPEN***
let him throw his tantrums and cool down before having a good talk over things. your feelings are just as normal and neing 2 yrs into marriage has still lots of things and situation to acustomed to. if things are not too serious...it should not get in the way of a marriage unless its a 3rd party?
most importantly learn to control your emotions for you need it. get a friend to talk over for the love must still be there...somewhere....
i no exactly how u feel in 22 and only bin married 10 months. u need 2 sit down and talk 2 him. if u cant do that write it down (thats how i do it). tell him u dont like the way he talks to u and explain that u feel like crap. if not it will eat and eat at u and soon u will burst. ive bin there and done it. if hes still unwilling 2 change. make the steps 2 leave him c if it changes. if he still is unwilling 2 change u do need 2 leave him and find some1 who will appreciate u and love u 4 u
when you don't feel that you're partner's #1 concern then it's over
verbal abuse is such a horrible thing and disrespect ruins any marriage in the world .. you should DEMAND his respect and live like a normal couple or it's gonna end tragically
HE STILL LOVES U....LOVE IS MORE THAN WORDS ITS LIFE CHANGING.....ITS THE AIR U BREATHE ITS UR HEART BEATING ITS THE UNIVERSE ITSELF......TALK TO HIM PUT EVERYTHING ASIDE IF U LOVE HIM DONT LET HIM GO LOVE CONSISTS OF TRYING N TRYING AND TRYING THERE IS A MOTHER I KNOW TRIED 4 I BELIEVE 29 YRS NOW THATS LOVE FOR THE FIRST 2 YRS THEY HAD NOTHING BUT A JACKET LITERARLY AND NO COUCHES SLEEPING ON THE FLOOR AND NOW THE MOTHER IS WELL OFF THE HUSBAND HAS DECEASED BUT THE WIFE STILL LOVES HIM......IN MEMORY AND ALL ( FIGHT 4 IT FIGHT 4 LOVE OR U WILLL REGRET IT) .MAK.
You don't deserved this unless you have done something terribly wrong to him. Well, if you really think you are suffering, do what you think it is fit for your you. You always have a chance somewhere.
When trust is broken and you dont respect each other, then its better to end it up.
When you admit to yourself it is.cream tones
Give him what he wants.How do U know that a marriage is over?
It certainly reads like it's over. For 17 days you haven't communicated with the guy at all. He's given you verbal abuse for a couple of years, yet you say with him, hmmm, very strange. I think you should end the marriage, before he does. Let's face it, it isn't working. You guys should be screwing like horny rabbits - you've only been married a short time the ';fire'; should be still burning. If you'd been married for four or five years - the fire would be out and you both would be Mr %26amp; Mrs. Humdrum. Get out of this marriage and do it before he tells you he wants out, which seems to be coming to a theater near you soon. Find someone new - and stop with the ';I still love him';, BS. No one should have to put up with the verbal abuse you've been getting.
Hi Sad Blue Pooh,
You do not deserve to be verbally abused, and you must respect yourself enough not to put up with it.
It is tough I know when a marriage is over, but if he will not communicate, better for you boh to move on now.
I see many people sticking together for the wrong reasons or a fear of being alone, but it does not bring long term happiness.
You can klearn from this and start again so value yourself and do not tolerate the abuse.
Kind regards,
Jon
I personally think that your husband is going through a rough time. Maybe he might have lost his job, thinking that he might loose his job. Put yourself in his shoes, and think why is he like that? Did I do anything that put him off, Or am I clinging too much on him? How can I come out of this situation or correct this situation.
You yourself know the answer to this situation, think, think before you do something.
Think of your future. If your love for your husband is strong, it will surely weather over all troubles.
Talk with him. Calmly, composed, just sit and talk with him. Tell him about your fears, anxieties.
Don't get angry, dont shout or scream or yell.
talk with him all willbe good.
If there is a will then surely there is a way.
god bless
You both need marriage counseling. If he is willing to try then there is hope if not the 50/50 in your relationship is very unbalanced. Based on the little information I have to go on, you sound depressed about it and I hope that you will be happy soon, with or with out your present husband.
Contact your husband some way and ask him what is wrong with him and why is he avoiding you. Depending on his answer you may find that he does not love or want you anymore. If that is the case then get out of this marriage as quick as you can.***SWEET MILDRED SENT ME HERE TO FIND DESPERATE WIVES FOR THE PLAYPEN***
let him throw his tantrums and cool down before having a good talk over things. your feelings are just as normal and neing 2 yrs into marriage has still lots of things and situation to acustomed to. if things are not too serious...it should not get in the way of a marriage unless its a 3rd party?
most importantly learn to control your emotions for you need it. get a friend to talk over for the love must still be there...somewhere....
i no exactly how u feel in 22 and only bin married 10 months. u need 2 sit down and talk 2 him. if u cant do that write it down (thats how i do it). tell him u dont like the way he talks to u and explain that u feel like crap. if not it will eat and eat at u and soon u will burst. ive bin there and done it. if hes still unwilling 2 change. make the steps 2 leave him c if it changes. if he still is unwilling 2 change u do need 2 leave him and find some1 who will appreciate u and love u 4 u
when you don't feel that you're partner's #1 concern then it's over
verbal abuse is such a horrible thing and disrespect ruins any marriage in the world .. you should DEMAND his respect and live like a normal couple or it's gonna end tragically
HE STILL LOVES U....LOVE IS MORE THAN WORDS ITS LIFE CHANGING.....ITS THE AIR U BREATHE ITS UR HEART BEATING ITS THE UNIVERSE ITSELF......TALK TO HIM PUT EVERYTHING ASIDE IF U LOVE HIM DONT LET HIM GO LOVE CONSISTS OF TRYING N TRYING AND TRYING THERE IS A MOTHER I KNOW TRIED 4 I BELIEVE 29 YRS NOW THATS LOVE FOR THE FIRST 2 YRS THEY HAD NOTHING BUT A JACKET LITERARLY AND NO COUCHES SLEEPING ON THE FLOOR AND NOW THE MOTHER IS WELL OFF THE HUSBAND HAS DECEASED BUT THE WIFE STILL LOVES HIM......IN MEMORY AND ALL ( FIGHT 4 IT FIGHT 4 LOVE OR U WILLL REGRET IT) .MAK.
You don't deserved this unless you have done something terribly wrong to him. Well, if you really think you are suffering, do what you think it is fit for your you. You always have a chance somewhere.
When trust is broken and you dont respect each other, then its better to end it up.
When you admit to yourself it is.
How to deal with problems of marriage life with a widowed person?
If he/she had had a very good marriage life with thier late partner, how should the new partner take it.. talk and listen to their feelings, or avoide talking it.. how to keep away from being compared.. simply.. how you should be ';yourself'; under this kind of situationHow to deal with problems of marriage life with a widowed person?
I think the partner should listen. This is a unique situation because unlike someone talking about their EX there is no chance of reconciliation with the deceased spouse, so it is cathartic for the widow to express her feelings.
If you make it a taboo topic then it will cause problemsHow to deal with problems of marriage life with a widowed person?
If your life with late partner was near perfect you wouldnot go around giving yourself to others... Now accepting both in the new reltionships will both have a past life,just talk about about it as normal confab
Nothing wrong in saying Freds grew the best sprouts I ever tasted pity I never took notice of their name ...Maggie always made jam with the fruit must say I like them in your pies better than jam tarts and sandwiches but she sold alot at car boot sales ,dont start selling your pies
yes talk and listen to how she or he is feeling i went threw it when my third husband died you go threw lot of grief and feelings that are painful at those times you need someone that will be understanding
I think the partner should listen. This is a unique situation because unlike someone talking about their EX there is no chance of reconciliation with the deceased spouse, so it is cathartic for the widow to express her feelings.
If you make it a taboo topic then it will cause problemsHow to deal with problems of marriage life with a widowed person?
If your life with late partner was near perfect you wouldnot go around giving yourself to others... Now accepting both in the new reltionships will both have a past life,just talk about about it as normal confab
Nothing wrong in saying Freds grew the best sprouts I ever tasted pity I never took notice of their name ...Maggie always made jam with the fruit must say I like them in your pies better than jam tarts and sandwiches but she sold alot at car boot sales ,dont start selling your pies
yes talk and listen to how she or he is feeling i went threw it when my third husband died you go threw lot of grief and feelings that are painful at those times you need someone that will be understanding
Would you support a ban on marriage between Republicans because causes their proliferation ?
Perhaps there could be a bill called the Anti-Right-Wing Nutcase Marriage and Reproduction Act.Would you support a ban on marriage between Republicans because causes their proliferation ?
Wow that sounds so great don't tease me....Would you support a ban on marriage between Republicans because causes their proliferation ?
Why not? There's a non-proliferation clause for liberals. It's called Roe vs Wade.
only if we can sterilize uber marxists like you
and remove their vocal cords so we are not forced tohear that shrill little whining voice
This isn't a serious question, is it?
Wow...sounds like someone needs a hug.
Did someone bump their head on the stupid tree?
That was a cheap shot sister.
I am republican..want to go out tomorrow night?
No
No
No -- to be consistent -- I have to support reproductive choice for everyone -- even the people trying to take over.
We'll just start being like Democrats and have all of our kids out of wedlock...
no because that would make me a hypocrite, and hypocrites are the kind of people i hate most...I believe that everyone should have the privilege of marriage (including homosexuals) and if I supported a ban on any group of people for marriage that would make me a hypocrite...no thanks.
I would!
wow...someone is blonde....oh, to answer ur question...NO!!!
No but I would support the installation of a strait jacket and wiring the jaws shut of most liberals. It would be easy. Take a few and the rest are too dumb to come up with an original or intelligent question.
Typical liberal attitude. You know what is best for everyone.
Wow I'm speechless! Don't you have a extremist feminist group meeting you should be at?
I dont get married on a regular basis and i dont know the answer!!! good luck hope you find what you are looking for!!!
you cant ask questions like that you will get reported that means an email with the subject title warning violation.
Yeah, But the Freaks can
Desi-grate the sacred Mass!l....agree that is how ridiculous things have gotten...and I guess the next thing we will see
';God '; taken off the dollar....and then we really will be Godless!
...I do not think our Forefathers wanted ';Freedom'; from Religion!
..I took your question as being facetious, but if you are serious, then you will realize that the family oriented Religious people only have Children they can afford....
No because then my husband wouldn't be my husband...and well the kids would be someone else's=)
Don't worry, he's slowly coming over to the left...=)
We're here. We're not leaving until everyone agrees with us. We win with the power of ideas that work...like freedom and security.
PS Tell Hillary we're sorry those FBI files haven't seemed to work.
That is very amusing, but like everyone else (INCLUDING HOMOSEXUALS) they should be given the right to marry whom ever they choose.
Yeah but the Democrats don't have the gonads to pass it. WTF? Don't they realize they are the majority? Slim but majority never the less.
I would support that ban. If they can ban gay marriages and the right of a woman to choose, then a ban on them [Republicans] would be a ';wake-up'; call to them. To suggest that having same-sex marriages would lead to polygamy is nuts.
Whites and blacks could not marry in the past and it's the same crap like Romney said to a disabled youth regarding medical use of marijuana. He evaded the question simply by saying he did not support medical use of marijuana. The youth only asked him if he [Romney] would have him arrested for using it. The disabled youth did not ask if he supported medical use of marijuana; his question was would Romney support his arrest for using it. The question was never answered.
Hopefully when Madam President is inaugurated, such things will be addressed upon merit and necessity.
Wow that sounds so great don't tease me....Would you support a ban on marriage between Republicans because causes their proliferation ?
Why not? There's a non-proliferation clause for liberals. It's called Roe vs Wade.
only if we can sterilize uber marxists like you
and remove their vocal cords so we are not forced tohear that shrill little whining voice
This isn't a serious question, is it?
Wow...sounds like someone needs a hug.
Did someone bump their head on the stupid tree?
That was a cheap shot sister.
I am republican..want to go out tomorrow night?
No
No
No -- to be consistent -- I have to support reproductive choice for everyone -- even the people trying to take over.
We'll just start being like Democrats and have all of our kids out of wedlock...
no because that would make me a hypocrite, and hypocrites are the kind of people i hate most...I believe that everyone should have the privilege of marriage (including homosexuals) and if I supported a ban on any group of people for marriage that would make me a hypocrite...no thanks.
I would!
wow...someone is blonde....oh, to answer ur question...NO!!!
No but I would support the installation of a strait jacket and wiring the jaws shut of most liberals. It would be easy. Take a few and the rest are too dumb to come up with an original or intelligent question.
Typical liberal attitude. You know what is best for everyone.
Wow I'm speechless! Don't you have a extremist feminist group meeting you should be at?
I dont get married on a regular basis and i dont know the answer!!! good luck hope you find what you are looking for!!!
you cant ask questions like that you will get reported that means an email with the subject title warning violation.
Yeah, But the Freaks can
Desi-grate the sacred Mass!l....agree that is how ridiculous things have gotten...and I guess the next thing we will see
';God '; taken off the dollar....and then we really will be Godless!
...I do not think our Forefathers wanted ';Freedom'; from Religion!
..I took your question as being facetious, but if you are serious, then you will realize that the family oriented Religious people only have Children they can afford....
No because then my husband wouldn't be my husband...and well the kids would be someone else's=)
Don't worry, he's slowly coming over to the left...=)
We're here. We're not leaving until everyone agrees with us. We win with the power of ideas that work...like freedom and security.
PS Tell Hillary we're sorry those FBI files haven't seemed to work.
That is very amusing, but like everyone else (INCLUDING HOMOSEXUALS) they should be given the right to marry whom ever they choose.
Yeah but the Democrats don't have the gonads to pass it. WTF? Don't they realize they are the majority? Slim but majority never the less.
I would support that ban. If they can ban gay marriages and the right of a woman to choose, then a ban on them [Republicans] would be a ';wake-up'; call to them. To suggest that having same-sex marriages would lead to polygamy is nuts.
Whites and blacks could not marry in the past and it's the same crap like Romney said to a disabled youth regarding medical use of marijuana. He evaded the question simply by saying he did not support medical use of marijuana. The youth only asked him if he [Romney] would have him arrested for using it. The disabled youth did not ask if he supported medical use of marijuana; his question was would Romney support his arrest for using it. The question was never answered.
Hopefully when Madam President is inaugurated, such things will be addressed upon merit and necessity.
What are your views on arranged marriage?
my whole life ive known im getting a semi arranged marriage
being being raised up muslim there are restrictions with interacting with boys, my house hold is more of a modern muslim family
at first i thought it was wrong, but im coming to consensus it might be a logical and decent way to live
what are your pros and cons on this controversial topic?What are your views on arranged marriage?
im a muslim guy and i dont think its a bad idea, as long as when you see the person you can say yes or no if you are or are not attracted to them or dont like the type of person they are.
most arranged marriages now let you meet the person and talk to them and see how they are with another person in the room such as their sister, cousin, etc. if they seem like a good person, and come from a good home and look good, why not?
i never really liked the idea growing up in miami, and its pretty easy to get a girl down here. ive been in serious relationships for the past 8-9 years. but the more i think about it now, i still live in miami, and id rather be with someone of my own culture/religon to have more in common with then some girl that is not of my religon/cultures. atleast id know she would not of been around, unlike many of the people here.
nothing personal to any of you. and im sorry if you found my post offensive, but these are just views.What are your views on arranged marriage?
It's not the arrangement of the marriage that bothers me, but the part where two people get married without actually knowing each other. I feel that you need to really know each other well, both emotionally, personally, and intimately, in order for the marriage to work.
its for sure not for me. i think you should be able to choose who you want or dont want to be with. then again marriage these days dont last so its really just whatever floats the person's boat...just its not for me. good luck in whatever you do.
Sounds good to me, sign me up.
What I have noticed is that in the majority of cases, your friends and family often know a lot better about who is a good match for you or not.
Arranged marriages have a much lower divorce rate. Maybe they're onto something.
That tradition should die a quick death.
being being raised up muslim there are restrictions with interacting with boys, my house hold is more of a modern muslim family
at first i thought it was wrong, but im coming to consensus it might be a logical and decent way to live
what are your pros and cons on this controversial topic?What are your views on arranged marriage?
im a muslim guy and i dont think its a bad idea, as long as when you see the person you can say yes or no if you are or are not attracted to them or dont like the type of person they are.
most arranged marriages now let you meet the person and talk to them and see how they are with another person in the room such as their sister, cousin, etc. if they seem like a good person, and come from a good home and look good, why not?
i never really liked the idea growing up in miami, and its pretty easy to get a girl down here. ive been in serious relationships for the past 8-9 years. but the more i think about it now, i still live in miami, and id rather be with someone of my own culture/religon to have more in common with then some girl that is not of my religon/cultures. atleast id know she would not of been around, unlike many of the people here.
nothing personal to any of you. and im sorry if you found my post offensive, but these are just views.What are your views on arranged marriage?
It's not the arrangement of the marriage that bothers me, but the part where two people get married without actually knowing each other. I feel that you need to really know each other well, both emotionally, personally, and intimately, in order for the marriage to work.
its for sure not for me. i think you should be able to choose who you want or dont want to be with. then again marriage these days dont last so its really just whatever floats the person's boat...just its not for me. good luck in whatever you do.
Sounds good to me, sign me up.
What I have noticed is that in the majority of cases, your friends and family often know a lot better about who is a good match for you or not.
Arranged marriages have a much lower divorce rate. Maybe they're onto something.
That tradition should die a quick death.
What do girls think about a guy who is saving his virginity for marriage? ?
Cause i am but people tell me that girls think its uncool and stupid...what do you girls think about a guy saving his virginity for marriage?What do girls think about a guy who is saving his virginity for marriage? ?
i think it's awesome.
i'm doing the same thing, and believe it or not, there are definitely girls out there that are saving themselves too. its really good that you can avoid temptation and it shows that you have really strong morals. What do girls think about a guy who is saving his virginity for marriage? ?
Wow, Col, it looks like the girls really dig it!
well most of them in India are virgins by the time they get married
its all personal preference. i currently have a boyfriend and he want's to save sex for marriage and i completly respect that 100%. Many girls who are slutty and just want to have a good time won't respect that, but in your case, that wouldnt be the type of girl that you would deserve. so its all in finding the right girl who will respect your thoughts.
i think it's cool. Actually, I think it's cool either way - saving it and not saving it- but I have a little more awe for guys who are going to save his for marriage since so many guys seem to want to be rid of it. And don't listen to people telling you it's stupid. They have no respect for your beliefs and principles. And you should find a girl who will be able to respect the fact that you're saving it.
In my opinion, it's a fantastic idea. Not many guys nowadays are willing to wait until marriage. If I had a boyfriend who is saving his virginity for marriage, I'd be really happy. Yes, some girls may think it's uncool, and stupid but that's because it's all they think about. It's a good idea. You shouldn't change your mind about it. (:
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If that is what you want to do, then that's awesome. My boyfriend and I are saving ourselves for marriage, and I really appreciate that he respects himself enough, and respects me enough, to wait until we are married.
its personally up to each indiviual and their morals.
but i am the same way...im waiting for marriage to loose my virginity and im hoping that if one day i marry someone, that they are a virgin too.
I always have a lot of respect for these people. It shows that the guy has a lot of dedication to the right one. So, it's a great thing.
I think it shows an amazing amount of self-respect, and the right girl will see that, and then she'll know that you can respect her too.
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Wow... a guy that actually respects his body. I think a guy like you is very strong willed and isn't effected by peer pressure. Good for you!
I think its cool that someone would do that for their future wife/husband. It shows that they are responsible. I'm doin the same thing so ur not the only one!
I think its entirely up to the person, ignore what other people say and stick to your beliefs!
Do what you want, if the girl thinks its weird, shes not the girl for you.
good luck
I think it shows you have a lot of values. Your future wife is lucky to have a husband like you!
Good luck!
I think it shows a girl that you can be very committed to your
beliefs and values. Good for you!
depends on the girl really. i personally don't think its a big deal, but its a good choice
HOTTT
a man with respect and patience
i think its hot....i like a responsibly guy...im going the same thing
Though I am not a girl, I have to advise against you doing this. You want to be good in bed for your eventual wife, and you have to be comfortable with your sexuality. Embrace it - don't fear it.
Well I can tell you from a guys point of view. Why bother? The chances of you finding a virgin to marry in the US are pretty slim.
May do well if she is Amish!
d;o)
i think it's awesome.
i'm doing the same thing, and believe it or not, there are definitely girls out there that are saving themselves too. its really good that you can avoid temptation and it shows that you have really strong morals. What do girls think about a guy who is saving his virginity for marriage? ?
Wow, Col, it looks like the girls really dig it!
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well most of them in India are virgins by the time they get married
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its all personal preference. i currently have a boyfriend and he want's to save sex for marriage and i completly respect that 100%. Many girls who are slutty and just want to have a good time won't respect that, but in your case, that wouldnt be the type of girl that you would deserve. so its all in finding the right girl who will respect your thoughts.
i think it's cool. Actually, I think it's cool either way - saving it and not saving it- but I have a little more awe for guys who are going to save his for marriage since so many guys seem to want to be rid of it. And don't listen to people telling you it's stupid. They have no respect for your beliefs and principles. And you should find a girl who will be able to respect the fact that you're saving it.
In my opinion, it's a fantastic idea. Not many guys nowadays are willing to wait until marriage. If I had a boyfriend who is saving his virginity for marriage, I'd be really happy. Yes, some girls may think it's uncool, and stupid but that's because it's all they think about. It's a good idea. You shouldn't change your mind about it. (:
Answer Mines?
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If that is what you want to do, then that's awesome. My boyfriend and I are saving ourselves for marriage, and I really appreciate that he respects himself enough, and respects me enough, to wait until we are married.
its personally up to each indiviual and their morals.
but i am the same way...im waiting for marriage to loose my virginity and im hoping that if one day i marry someone, that they are a virgin too.
I always have a lot of respect for these people. It shows that the guy has a lot of dedication to the right one. So, it's a great thing.
I think it shows an amazing amount of self-respect, and the right girl will see that, and then she'll know that you can respect her too.
kaya
Wow... a guy that actually respects his body. I think a guy like you is very strong willed and isn't effected by peer pressure. Good for you!
I think its cool that someone would do that for their future wife/husband. It shows that they are responsible. I'm doin the same thing so ur not the only one!
I think its entirely up to the person, ignore what other people say and stick to your beliefs!
Do what you want, if the girl thinks its weird, shes not the girl for you.
good luck
I think it shows you have a lot of values. Your future wife is lucky to have a husband like you!
Good luck!
I think it shows a girl that you can be very committed to your
beliefs and values. Good for you!
depends on the girl really. i personally don't think its a big deal, but its a good choice
HOTTT
a man with respect and patience
i think its hot....i like a responsibly guy...im going the same thing
Though I am not a girl, I have to advise against you doing this. You want to be good in bed for your eventual wife, and you have to be comfortable with your sexuality. Embrace it - don't fear it.
Well I can tell you from a guys point of view. Why bother? The chances of you finding a virgin to marry in the US are pretty slim.
May do well if she is Amish!
d;o)
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